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writes: I have been with my bf for almost a year. We had many talks about wanting to go all the way. We have tryed many times but i always get scared. I want to so badly. He has even given me a ring. We love one another very much. Will i ever be ready? How can i get over my fears? Reply to this Question
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reader, chearfullcharlie +, writes (28 January 2006):
 There is no perfect time for anyone to get over their fears, but with sex its more easy. If you are still a bit scared, then youre not ready. But one day when your just messing on with him and you get that lil feeling, then you will know the time is right. Only if you have condoms and feel ready, though NEVER go un-protected!! As for your boyfriend, if he truly loves you then he will wait...Good Look x:)
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reader, smeedle  +, writes (28 January 2006):
 good morning, How old are you, is this what is holding you back or are you just afraid of actually having sex, if you are totally relaxed and have taken the correct precautions, you already say you want to move your relationship to a physical one so that aspect should be ok, set the scene, maybe have a glass of wine(but not too much) plenty of kissing and try and relax, eventually it will happen if you want it to, but if you subconciously dont want to for any reason then dont!!
Make sure in your own mind that you really do want this relationship to become a sexual one, are you feeling pressurised, if all is ok then just relax the first time is always the hardest but the most memorable and special. good luck and happy soul searching.
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