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writes: hiya. i really want to have sex with my boyfriend but i am scared i will do something wrong. and will it hurt.my boyfriend says if i dont want to have sex we can do oral but i am also scared i will do this wrong. i am worried that becouse of this i will be a virgin forever please help. Reply to this Question
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reader, brown eyez  +, writes (27 September 2007):
having sex for the first time is a big step. there are lots of people who get scared. just make sure you want to do it. once you do it its all over and youll be relievd 2 knw it wasnt scary and that your not a virgin. only do it if your 100% sure . and dnt 4get 2 use contraception. theres no sex like safe sex =] xx
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reader, Rebecca Batchelor +, writes (19 January 2005):
 You don't say how old you are but you need to remember that you shouldn't feel pressurised into doing something you aren't ready for yet and it seems this way to me. You both need to be ready to have sex not just one of you. If you don't want to have sex and this includes oral sex, then you don't have to. Your boy-friend, if he genuinely cares about you, will wait for when the time is right for you. Having sex for the first time can have a big emotional impact on a woman and you need to feel ready and mature enough to cope with this. Your boy-friend should be very gentle with you and understanding. He should reassure you that he wants to be with you whether you have sex or not. Do not rush into it without considering all this first.Having sex for the first time can be uncomfortable but providing your boy-friend doesn't rush it and that he is tender with you, making sure that you are aroused and still doesn't push you to have intercourse, then you will enjoy it.Again, only give oral sex if you want to. Perhaps if you stroked him first for a while to build your confidence and then gently take him in your mouth. Use your tongue as well to give him pleasure with him in your mouth or even just running your tongue up and down his penis. This may help to relax you initially before taking him in your mouth. Only allow him to orgasm in your mouth if you want him to. If you decide not to have penetrative sex, then you can masturbate him until he orgasms.Remember that the idea of making love is for you to be able to express how you feel for each other. It is for couples who are committed to each other and wish to show that.Only make love if you are really sure you are ready. You won't be a virgin forever.Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2005): HeyI'm 16 and I've been with my boyfriend like 14 months. When I turned 16 we decided to have sex and I was nervous the first time and we had a bit of trouble 2 begin with and i got upset but after he said it didnt matter to him i relaxed and we tried again. This time it worked, yeh ok it did hurt a little bit but the 2nd time everything was fine.And its really brought us closer now i dont regret it 1 bit!Also with oral sex, like the person said before theres nothing u can really do wrong. Just grab hold of his penis and suck on the head if u dont want to totaly deep throat him. an also look and act like ur enjoying it, guys love that.gd luck hun!
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A reader, Anon., writes (18 January 2005): It's likely it's a psychological problem. Something in your mind is trying to stop you partaking in sexual intercourse. What are you scared of? There's nothing to be scared of, many people find sex very relaxing, calming and very enjoyable. It's true it usually hurts the women the first time she has sex but if you use foreplay before hand it should help to loosen you up. Many people get scared of giving oral in case they do it wrong but there's not really a lot to actually DO wrong. As long as you don't try and go to quickly or act as if you're not enjoying it or even make slurping noises! The more you enjoy it, the more your partner will. Good luck and I wish you all the very best! Just try and overcome our fears. It is more than likely you will really enjoy it.
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