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writes: I really want some help as soon as possible, my ex-boyfriend who I went out with twice seems to treat his girlfriends like a piece of rubbish but when I was with him he was the sweetest to me and made me feel great about myself, but when he split up with me the second time for some reason he wouldn't talk to me for a period of two weeks, untill when we were at the same party all of a sudden he wanted to be friends. I know he doesn't want to get back with me but I still have strong feelings for him, although we are back friends again which I am pleased with there seems to be alot of tension between us, he doesn't seem to want to see me or talk to me face to face its only texting he wants to do and that was the way we first met, he said to me at that party that he really did like me when we were together, but I don't understand how his feelings can change soooo quick when he was the one running back to me both of the times we went out, now it seems to be me doing the running!!!Please help
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (19 January 2005):
 Hi there,It sounds like he's uncertain about the relationship and thinks you two moved too fast in your early days, so he's a bit all over the map in his feelings.Am I reading your letter correctly? You write that you went out with him "twice", which doesn't spell "boyfriend", in my opinion. Having had only two dates with this guy means you two barely know each other. He was probably on his very best, "first impression" behaviour with you, which is why he seemed so very sweet (not that I'm saying he couldn't be that way all the time). Your letter makes you sound a little desperate, and he might not be ready for a serious relationship with you, particularly if you're very full-on about your wanting one.It's possible that his feelings haven't "changed" for you, but that he may not have developed any feelings yet. From the sound of your letter, your dates were more than he felt ready for, and so he pulled back from the romance, deciding that he would rather be friends for a while before going any further.Since you still sound very interested in him, and he sounds a bit unsure, I would tread carefully and not badger him about dates. You need to chill a little and realise that there is plenty of time to get to know this guy, especially since he seems keen to keep texting you and keep you as a friend.Back off a little ways whilst staying friendly and see where things develop.
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