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writes: i have just got together with my bufriend but i am realy worried about having sex. im almost 17 he is nearly 18 and he is experienced im not. im a virgin but im very self consciouse and am not very fond of my body, he has never seen my figure and dont know what to expect. should i be worried of just let it happen? im scared of losing him if i do something wrong. please help.....
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2008): Pretty much just be comfortable and if he dosnt like it i have learned.. take it or take a hike... i am still self concious, i think everygirl is their first few times..i mean i have only had sex once, and i was scared out of my mind of what he would think.. but you know, its ok b/c he told me i was the best he had, b/c i wasnt loose like every other girl at our high school...i know that TMI..but guys would rather have sex with a virgin than with someone whos loose..PROOVEN FACT. So if he dosnt "like" your figure, TUFF SHIT!.. his loss hunny..lol I hope you hae fun, let your guard down a little, and if you give an inch, he will hopefully give back a mile..[Personal information deleted by moderator.]
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2006): I lost my V yesterday and i was so worried that i would bleed but i didnt.. this kind of confused me as many people say your meant to bleed alot so i googled not bleeding and apparently only 1/5 girls do bleed! i also felt sum sharp short pains but you soon forget about them :) relax and dont be nervous its not as painful as its made out to be! xXx
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2006): I had this happen to me a few times, in my past. Now that I'm older, I simply don't care what a guy thinks of my figure. He takes it or leaves it and you know what..most guys love that confidence. I just let loose and have fun with my guy and he loves the wildness and carefree, freedom of having someone who doesn't have any hang ups. I think most guys find hangups a turn off. So many people do this what you are doing. They allow all their fears and anxieties rule a perfectly, wonderfully fine relationship. Why are you afraid to lose him if he doesn't like the way you do it or he doesn't like your figure. If you are so scared that you will do something wrong and will lose him--you aren't ready for a good quality, mature, loving relationship. All that should matter is he has a caring, respect attitude towards you and if he doesn't act this way..then he's not worth it,is he? But if he's treating you well and loves you..then start loving yourself more to put all this stress and worry to rest. Allow yourself to love without all these fears and only then will you empower yourself in this relationship and equally balance it all out. Fears and insecurities will inevitably destroy your relationship..so a change in attitude and thinking is crucial. Think positive and have some fun!!
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reader, datprincssfrmva +, writes (18 August 2006):
I have gone through the same things you have. I used to be very self concious about my body, but i learned that there is not much you can do about it. If you boyfriend really cares about you, he wont judge you based on your figure or how experienced you are. If he knows that you are a virgin, then he should understand that you are very inexperienced and work with you. I hope this helps!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2006): If he loves you he will accept you for who you are and love you regardless of your body. Dont worry about experience your only 16 its not like he expexts you to be an expert on sex. Just relax and do whatever feels comfortable.
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