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writes:hi everyone, I really need some advice. The thing is I've been dating this guy for about eight months now and he wants to have sex and I just keep telling him that I'm not ready but the truth is that I'm really scared of sex and I don't know what to do. Please help! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionja he is 22 and im 18
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (5 February 2012):
 if you are scared you are not ready.
what you tell him is "I'm not ready"
if he pressures you, then you know he doesn't really care for YOU.
is he older than you?
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (5 February 2012):
 What do you do? You stay honest and stick to your boundaries. "I'm not ready. I am not going to have sex with you." If he keeps asking then he's not really a good match as a boyfriend, which is too bad, but that happens sometimes. Don' worry, your feelings are normal. His feelings may be normal, but his pressuring you into doing something you don't want to do is not okay.
Be firm, be confident in your decision and don't worry that you are doing the wrong thing. You are doing the right thing for YOU in saying "no."
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reader, person12345 +, writes (5 February 2012):
 If you're scared of it, then you're not ready. You should only have sex if you're 100% comfortable with your partner and the idea of it. Trust me, you'll know when you're ready. You're not, and that's OK. He's putting pressure on you and that's not OK. He may be ready, but you're not and he needs to wait.
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (5 February 2012):
 Your very young and your not ready. Don't let anyone force you into sex. Your scared of sex and that is normal at your age. Girls that rush into sex before they are ready often hate themselves and regret it when they are older. Have sex when your ready, not to please some horny guy.
If the guy can't understand that, then dump him. It's only sex he's after and he doesn't love you at all.
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