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*shleemaria
writes:my boyfriend just left for two months to work i miss him sooo much.i dont know how to get over this im soo scared he will find someone new or realize he is happy without me. im tired of crying about it i mean i realize he is working and cant be having much fun but i dunno what to dooo :( Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 September 2008): Don't ever be "scared" to lose a guy, dear. High self-esteem, independence and a healthy positive attitude about yourself and life in general, is very attractive to men. But...gosh hun, you don't give yourself a whole heck of a lot of credit here, for being this amazing, wonderful woman in his life. You sound very overly dependant on him..may be too much so, that being away from him, makes you lonely and lost. It doesn't really sound as if you're emotionally ready for a healthy relationship,especially if you can't get a grip on these emotions. You cannot allow him to see you breaking down like this. The worst turnoff for a guy is a desperately clingy, needy gf. If you keep up with this attitude, the prognosis for this relationship, lasting, is not good. You need to trust and respect that your bf cares for you, loves you dearly but he's off working, making a living and he accepts the circumstances as is. Listen, I think what makes most people proud of themselves is when they can face their fears head on. In your case, the fear of being alone without him, maybe is stopping you from going forward. Being alone is not such a bad thing, dear. Why not ride out the feelings of loneliness and come out a stronger person as a result of it? What you need to do is believe in yourself, occupy yourself, develop yourself to enable you to get through the discomfort of being alone, while he is away.. Call in family and trusted friends for distractions and just have fun with them. . Fill your life up with other things like family love, career enhancement, educational possibilities. Stop using a/ any relationship with a man as a substitue for your fulfillment and happiness. Expecting a bf to provide you 'with a life' so you don't feel lonely, is unrealistic and unfair...because that's not his job to do so. It's your job. Men are here to share our lives not 'be' our lives. So be happy and show him what an independant, strrong women you are. He'll respect that about you, more than anything. Good luck and take care of yourself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 September 2008): hi
try to act confident. the most important thing in a relationship is TRUST ISSUE. learn to trust him.
Dont worry or think too much about it. continue doing your daily work .Try to keep yourself occupied. Indulge yourself in things u love to do. This will help you to divert your mind.
and yes keep on praying for him, everything will be fine.
Shuba
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reader, thatgothgirl20  +, writes (30 September 2008):
 Chill. You are probably a very beautiful girl. If you love him this much, how could he possibly want someone else?
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