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writes: Hi, I'm new to all of this but would love some advice please.I have been seeing a lovely guy for 5 months. After a long abusive relationship I never thought I could love again but he has been so caring and loving.I recently found out he was sending a woman very dirty text messages. He went out with her before we met and said he ended it a long time ago as it wasn't going anywhere with her.She texted to say happy new year and it got out of hand.He is adamant it meant nothing and hates men who do this sort of thing and says he regrets it so much and it was even more stupid because he knew he didn't want her and it wasn't going anywhere. He had met her for coffee and had arranged to met her again. He knew it was wrong but he still did it.Am I a total fool to give him a second chance, and that is all he will get. He seems genuinely sorry for all the hurt he has caused, but nothing changes the fact he did it. I'm a mess. All honest answers welcome. Thank you for taking the time to read this.
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reader, louise74 +, writes (12 April 2006):
louise74 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionjust to let anyone who read this know that it is all over.After weeks of trying to work through the pain this all caused i just couldn't trust my boyfriend again.I look back and realize he would never have done this to me if he had truely loved me.I had loved him(and if im honest i still do) but without trust there is nothing left.I know i tried,and no matter what i am proud of myself for that.Thanks for listening.
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reader, MissMo +, writes (7 February 2006):
How exactly did you find out about these text messages? Were you going through his phone? If so, then there are some trust issues here that need to be ironed out. You need to be able to trust the man you're with.
It seems like you're still upset about this incident, which is understandable. If you two were in an exclusive, committed relationship, then he completely violated the trust that you 2 built. The texts could have possibly been a drunken mistake that would never again be repeated. But if he's arranging to meet her for coffee, then he might be trying to play the field and open himself up to his options. Trust your gut on this one.
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