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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2009): I have the same problem. Prom is a month away and I didn't think anyone was going to ask me so when someone did I was suprised and automatically said yes. I told him we'd be going with a group though. Then that very night the kid I have a huge crush on asked me out of no where. I don't know what to do. I already told the first kid yes and he's really shy so I know it must have been hard for him to ask. I really want to go with the second offer but I don't know how to tell the other kid no without being a jerk. And I can't tell him I'm not going then show up with my crush. Idk what to do :(
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reader, OoHarryoO  +, writes (5 April 2009):
OoHarryoO is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you so much everybody x
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2009): that was supposed to come out as unintentional unkindness…as far as him getting the wrong impression…well i'd say that's what happens with a lot of guys who are "his type"…one girl finally shows him the light of day and they think its their princess charming coming to sweep them off their feet…if he tries to give you a kiss or something just give him the old "just friends" line…i mean it hurts, but it's honest…better than being led on
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reader, Jamer70 +, writes (4 April 2009):
 i agree with acd719 here. You said yes to this boy. He seems shy and believe me its very hard for a shy boy to go up to a girl and ask her to a dance, and you said yes.
I think as you already said yes you should go, have fun as you never know what kinda person he will be once he gets a bit of confidence at the dance and opens up. Be open minded to this as you never know whos underneath.
If your still feeling the same after the dance say you had a great time and just be friendly. If he does ask you out again this time just say you want to remain friends, it will hurt him but less than dumping him 'cus you found a better date.
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reader, OoHarryoO +, writes (4 April 2009):
OoHarryoO is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you everyone... but acd719 you have made it clear and highlighted the most for fulfiling descesion and it has really helped (honestly) although while this may just seem like one night i think my saying yes has led him to believe that i like him as just more than a friend when i actually don't like him in that way... what do u suggest?
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2009): Hi
I am afraid to say that i think you should go with this boy....YOU SAID YES! and there must have been some reason why you said yes in the first place. I know you want this to be a fantastic night to remember BUT SO DOES HE! it would be horrible for him to remember been dumped. What i would suggest is tell him before hand that you may end up dancing with other boys but he can do the same with other girls. This way you are been honest to him and not hurting his feelings....you never know you may have a fantastic night with him alone! Or you could see if another girl would like to take your place that he may like. Prom night important BUT not as IMPORTANT as not hurting the boy you PROMISED to go with...he no doubt will be so excited and he was brave to ask you in the first place and you should be honoured as he will now feel. Forget what the others say and both of you have a great night and laugh and laugh and dance and be happy and SHOW THE OTHERS WHAT A GOOD PROM NIGHT IS ABOUT.
HAVE FUN.
VIA CON DIOS.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2009): if anything, i think you'll appear like a really nice girl who's doing a really nice thing for someone else…think about long-term…when you look back on it…let's say that you went out that night w/ a really popular hot guy and had tons of fun…while in reality your original date ended up home alone w/ nothing to do that night b/c his date dumped him…that's called unintentional kindness…what's more important…one super hot night for you—who will probably have many more…or one night w/ a girl for this guy who probably doesn't get experiences like this often or EVER for that matter…and who's to say that you won't have fun with this guy…go into it w/ an open heart and an open mind…remind yourself that we are all equal and all God's children
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2009): say to him you want your night to be guyfree and tell him your going to the prom with your girls and that you'll still talk to him there and such maybe dance with him but make it clear he isn't your datee and go alone and maybe dance with a few guys :)xx
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reader, Florence Grey +, writes (4 April 2009):
 I was in exactly the same situation!This guy who i'm good friends with and has a crush on me was persuaded by some of my friends to ask me to prom. He did ask me and i felt i couldn't say no.However i really didn't want to go with him at all because he is quite immature and my other friends are all going together as a group of guys an girls. I didnt want to go with him as my date. It sounds really awful but i just wasnt happy with the situation. Eventually after a while I managed to tell him I didnt want to go with him and explained why. He was a bit upset but the next week i found he'd asked someone else!Luckily my situation was resolved well. You need to explain to the guy how you're feeling and expalin that it isn't him thats the problem its you. even if this isnt strictly true it will make him feel better.If you do get another date don't go about it in front of him!good luck :)
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reader, OoHarryoO +, writes (4 April 2009):
OoHarryoO is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you, i am also afraid of apprearing as if i really care about what these other guys think.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2009): that wouldn't be nice at all…what if someone did that to you? this guy probably has low enough self-esteem as it is…if you broke it off then you'd probably really hurt him…think of it this way…go to prom w/ the guy…take some pictures…but he doesn't have to be the only one you dance with…you can just ask him why you're there…hey do you mind if i dance with so and so for this song…it's not like your in a committed relationship
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2009): its your night,you only get a prom once,Politely explain to this guy that ur going to hav 2 turn down his lovely offer.DONT FEEL GUILTY.this night shud b special 4 u as much as him
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