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writes:Sagittarius Females!!! Please Help!I am a mid-thirties Aries male who has had the great fortune to begin a friendship with a Sag female. All the astrology folks seem to think this is a good match. At this point I would have to agree. We both have the same active lifestyle, and interests. I am doing my best not to cramp the free spirit nature of Sags, and need for space. I can tell you I have never been entranced by a females constant happy-go-lucky nature, smile and personality in general. I have now! My confusion comes because the usual methods that have worked so well in the past to guage if a female is really interested in me as more than a friend just aren't giving me the clear signals I'm use to. I am told both Sags and Aries, like me are brutally honest. I know I am, sometimes to a fault. I have tried everything from using a ring I saw on her pinky finger as an excuse to briefly hold her hand. Deep glances across the dinner table while out at a restaurant. Cutesy little text messages that to most woman are a clear sign that "This guy likes you", to coming right out and telling her face to face, "My day just got a whole lot better" when I asked why I replied "because I got to spend some time with you". I always get an endearing smile, a thank you, and such, and she always responds when I ask her to join me for fun activities. Though she is rarely ontime and frequently postpones the activities to a later time. But still no clear sign, at least to me. She shares openly about past relationships, thanks me for listening, and goes so far as to talk about past sex experiences, which raises my temperature to about 1000 degrees. My question to you Sags is, are any of these things I discussed, signs she might be interested in more than friendship? Is my best recourse to just come right out and tell her, "I want more than friendship"? Your advice is appreciated.
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reader, zhai007  +, writes (9 September 2012):
I just read this inquiry... I'm a Sagittarius, I don't know exactly if she's in to you or she's just being kind... but one thing is for sure, from my point of view just cut all the cutie stuff, and go directly to the point.. If you really like her there should be no any problem in telling her, after all you're friends. I don't think after you tell her that you like her and she's not in to you she'd run from you, probably a week or two, but Sagittarius people like me are all friendly so if you tell her what your feelings for her she'd appreciate it and won't blow you off. - well this is just me.I really don't know if we're the same but I know all sags wants honest AND direct approach no goofing around. And another tip, if she also likes you, don't ever make her feel that she's not important or less important, some sags needs constant assurance. And when she runs atleast try a subtle way of running after her. Aries tends to be disinterested after they've gotten what they've chased and that would make a sag's insecurity to appear AND she will run. That's what happened to me AND my aries guy.
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reader, Cutestuff  +, writes (15 October 2010):
 well I am a Sag female and the man I am seeing is an Aries man, sometimes it's uncanny how dead on our signs are to one another... as a true Sag.. if she is talking about sex with you it does not necesarily mean she wants it with you, I am open about my sexuality, with close male friends, if they get a little too intimate with me in the conversation if I am being platonic I will change the subject or laugh about it. The bad side of this sign is.. we do not want to hurt someone's feelings so we do not actually tell them we're not interested which can lead to some confussed feelings.. it is true to fact that the aries man and sag women have amazing chemistry in and outside the bedroom, and we are very open and honest with feelings emotions etc.. we just tend to go with the flow and try not to analize the relationship too much.. which is hard for me , I am a very analitical sign (sorry for the spelling folks midnight worker) zzzzzz i would say the best advice is to be open and honest and just tell her you like her .. that's the best way to know and she will be just as honest in her feelings for you.. be warmed we like to chase and be chased , and have fun :) it's all about the fun!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 September 2010): Sounds like you already know her personality traits quite well. As a Sag female I suggest you are openly frank with her. We give frank advice and are openly opinionated. We never say anything to intentionally hurt someone. Sag women turn all the cards face up. Once a sag female decides to be in a relationship, whether as friends or more, you can bet they are more devoted and loyal than you will ever expect. Infact, we often invest more than we are willing to loose. Once she commits to you she will expect the same loyalty from you. We are not players and are not into headgames. Don't beat around the bush. We read black and white, not grey. Even though fiercely committed, we still need our personal space and time because we are very independent. Her glances and friendliness towards others may seem flirtacious but rest assured she will be completely loyal, once she makes the committment to you. As for being late and postponing, it's true for all Sag females. Don't take it personally. We will be late to our own funerals unless someone else is in charge. As for sharing past experiences, well trust me she's not comparing you to other men in the way you think. Sag women consider sex the most intimate and emotional connection two people can share. Sag women are very creative when it comes to sex and love to be with a man who is willing to make our fantasies come true. She's just letting you know how important it is to her on an emotional level. Sag women are open conversationalists and will tell you anything. We have an opinion about everything and love to give advice based on personal expriences. Sex is one of hundreds of topics we will discuss. As for being blunt, yes we are but, calling off a relationship is not something that comes easy for us becuase as I said before, we never say anything to intentionally hurt someone. As for touching, kissing and hand-holding, we love it but only after we have decided to be in a committed relationship. Infact, once committed, we expect it and if it doesn't we start to wonder if something is wrong. According to the experts a Sag female's most compatible sign is an Aries male. The one thing we Sag women dislike about Aries men is the child-like temper tantrums. I hope this helps. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2009): I'm a sag woman married to an aries man and i can tell you we like straight talking. If i was you i would lay your card's on the table and tell her you want a future with her if that is not how she see's it i'm sure she will tell you[personal details removed to protect privacy].
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2009): I'm a sagittarius woman, who likes an aries male.. and I suggest that you make a gesture that you like her...tell a mutual friend you REALLY like her...trust me she'll find out and decide on her own. Believe me I have had this done many times (im a typical sag girl) and if she likes you too.. she'll be over the moon and start to really like yu too...heating up the chemistry between you too... OR she'll completely not be intereted... and you WILL know... she'll let you know either way and come to you. IF she starts to play hard to get (because thats what we often do..we like to remain mysterious) leave her alone.. and make her think she'd missed out!! Believe me, if she likes you and she thinks she's missed a golden opportunity, she will come running!! Basically telling her to her face, she might just think you're being friendly! Because us sagittarians wuld never openly say they liked somebody to their faces... and we're shy too! let her know through a friend, give her time to `digest` concrete information you like her, give her time to decide and be confidant and `suave`... confidence is key!!! do not be needy either... we like our space and hate thinking we'll be tied down, we want a `prize` man who we have to work for a bit.... and as said above we dont just settle with any old guy...if we're with you... we like you!! and always stay faithful... otherwise we just break it off...
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2009): i'm a sag female and i have to say, i'm quite taken by your attitude already, so i'm sure she is too :3
i'd give it a shot with her if i were you.
plus the fact that she's asked about past sex experiences means she's extremely interested.
good luck n-n
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reader, Adaminme +, writes (20 June 2009):
I feel you need to ask her out to more intimate settings to provoke intimacy - I just met an Aries male and already Adore him!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2009): hello, i'm a sagittarius woman who just met an Aries male and was quite smitten with him (: - We moved pretty fast in the intimacy department which is taboo for a lot of relationships. - I slept with him the first time we went out so... your situation is a little bit different lol - you were friends first which means perhaps she doesn't realize the extent of your desires for her. - aries loves the chase so that may be the reason for this semi-worship (even though sagittarians are dope lol) - was i wrong to sleep with him so soon? lemme know
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reader, coco2916 +, writes (4 June 2009):
Yes, she would definitively tell you.
Ask her if she still has a flame for an ex boyfriend? It could be that.
I do not understand why she is not all over you, because normally Aries and Sags if there's chemistry.... oh well... there's not room for common sense.
Again, ASK her directly.
Good luck.
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reader, coco2916 +, writes (3 June 2009):
Well I am a Sag and I love Aries men.
She is not giving you clear messages, that's for sure but that is not normal of this sign. Although I have to say, we like to be pursued and until we really feel this is the guy for us we do not like to be touch or hold hands etc. That's very intimate for us, despite what Astrological sings tells about us, we are very much like anyone else, we like to be in a relationship and we stay and are loyal if the right guy comes along. We love quick witted minds and romantic, gentle approach. If you can awake her intellect and she is physically attracted to you, you will get her.
Regardless, Sags women do not stay around with a man she has not interest on, she will either tell you I just want to be your friend and she would do that very clearly. Or you can ask her, she wouldn't be offended and she will tell you as it is.
Talking about past relationships is part of who she is and she is sharing something very important of her past with you, but sometimes when we like a guy we are clumsy and do the wrong things at the beguining, do not take that as she does not like you, actually that is a good sign, just let her know that you really would prefer to talk about something elses and she will happily do that.
Best wishes.
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reader, coco2916 +, writes (3 June 2009):
Let me tell you about the Sag female. We like to talk about our past relationships with other men because we feel that is important part of who we are, besides we always do it in a friendly note. Never to make him uncomfortable. Also, we are clumsy as you know and we love Aries men, there's a connection with them that we do not find with any other lover, so we get nervous around them and tend to do all the wrong things at the beginning. We like to be chased or persued and even if many astrological sites described us as a player, we are not.
In the meantime when we are in the stage of being pursued, we do not give too many signs like we are already crazy for you and that's the way we are, but if we are with you, trust me, we like you. We do not spend time with a man that do not interest us and if we are in a friendly "only" situation with him, we let him know right away clearly and make sure he understand.
I think she likes you, just be a little bit patient with her, either she will let you know or you can ask her, she would not be offended and she will tell you as it is.
Best wishes.
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reader, Moochi  +, writes (3 June 2009):
She might totally freek out and run away or better still say bluntly that it took you too much time to come out with the words.
Just remember to love her the way she is. Its hard to accept a saggis weired sense of freedom but you loose her the moment you try to mould her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2009): Same anon here. In that case...maybe not. The stereotype that men have to be the ones to do the asking in terms of starting a relationship has diminished a bit but is still alive and well in the minds of many women. For example, I consider myself straightforward in most regards but have never been the one to ask a guy to date me, usually because I didn't know how they'd take it. It's possible that she is traditional and/or shy, in which case you will have to make the first move. Or, as I said before, she's not into you in that way.You know there is one sure-fire way to find out, though. Tell her how you feel and proceed based on her reaction :) Good luck
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reader, wmyrtle601 +, writes (3 June 2009):
wmyrtle601 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI appreciate your input and honesty. I realized after writing this, I may not have worded one part correctlyy when referring to her open conversations about sex. It is more about her letting me know, "how passionate she is about certain things in her life, including sex" always followed with a flirty smile. If that makes any difference. The only reason I am quite confused, is she also claims to live up to the Sagittarius trait of complete, blunt honesty. If she were not interested, would she not just bluntly say so? Thanks again
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2009): Hate to break it to you but, regardless of her sign, if she ignores your obvious advances and talks openly about her past sex life with you... these are indicators that she is probably not interested in anything more than friendship. Good luck.
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