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writes:How can I stop feeling sad and jealous? Ok so there is a guy I really like but it's long distance. We can only speak 2/3 times a week. I am seeing him again in around 6 weeks and I think he really likes me too so I am hopefully going to tell him how I feel.If I can pick up the courage.I feel really sad when he doesn't email or text me for a few days but I know it's hard for him. He also has some other friends who post a lot about him on Facebook and I think a lot of the time it's to make me jealous, but it works.How can I stop feeling so sad and jealous when I don't speak to him or they post something? And have you got any advice on how to tell him I like him? There is also an age difference of nearly 8 years
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2015): You are punishing yourself and living the life of a drama-queen. You're too young to be torturing yourself through a long-distance relationship; when you should be practicing with someone local and available. You're not cutout for an LDR, and your post is proof of it.
Dump him, and make yourself accessible to nice guys who have the time and desire to spend precious time with you.
Stop agonizing over a make-believe relationship. You are going to tell him what you feel? Why doesn't he already know; if you're in a relationship? What you mean is, you have an online/over-the-phone connection with a guy.
You chat from time to time. You call that a relationship?!!
My dear, don't do this to yourself. Give-up on this nonsense; and get out and socialize in the real world. You need the practice, experience, and exposure offered through one-on-one dating. You need physical-affection; and spending moments alone together in close proximity.
You need touching, holding hands; without a device between you. Not a random weekend together; and the rest of the time yearning and pining for some distant-guy. Who is no doubt having the time of his life with friends, and the local girls.
He's not going to sit around waiting for messages and calls from you on weekends. That's what his friends are trying to show you.
You'll never learn what a good relationship is really like, and you'll be really awkward around real guys who can spend actual time with you. You're used to being messaged to, and hiding behind a digital device. You're missing out on a lot. Mostly what regular romantic-interaction offers. Having bits and pieces of time to spend together is nothing but a tease. He'll tire of it soon anyway.
Young people your age play this little game of smart-phone/social-media romances; only to learn that the reality is, that they don't work or last. They're miserable and stressful.
If you're enjoying the drama, hang in there. If you're not, get out and be with our friends; and meet cute guys.
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