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writes:I have recently started dating my aunts sons son. We have totally fallen in love with each other and have a connection like non other I have ever felt with any guy in my entire life. I cannot even imagine the thought of not having him in my life this way, he has come to mean so much to me. We live in Canada and it is not illegal here.Unfortuneatly, our family has become aware of and condems our relationship and for the most part are doing their best to break us up. We are both over the age of 30 and I am older than he. Some people in our family have started rummors that we were involved long before we were and while I was still married and are acussing me of committing adultry with him.This is totally false. My questions are: Is our relationship wrong? How do i get my family to stop spreading rummors? Leviticus 18:6-23 lists unacceptable relationships and states in verse 6 that you are not to have relations with "near kin" #7-23 lists the definitions of "near kin" and cousins are not on the list...does this mean it's acceptable in Gods eyes?
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reader, just curious2 +, writes (14 April 2010):
just curious2 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell hello all.........Just thought I'd add a little update...my "cousin" and I have been together for a year now and it still feels like we just fell in love!
Our relationship has growen and we are closer than ever, we laugh, we have fun, we get each other like no one else can.We have amazing communication and always talk through any issues in a respectful manner. He lifts me up when I'm down and brings me back to earth when needed. I feel like the luckiest woman on the planet and he feels that he's the luckiest guy...nothing can beat that!
As far as our family is concerned, some have come around to accept our relationship now that the 'shock' has worn off and see how happy we make each other. Some of our family has accepted us with open arms and see nothing wrong with us being together.(my parents, his mother,my brother and numerous other cousins)
We have many friends who are very acepting and nonjudgementel...we are very blessed this way.
There are a few however who just seem to thrive on other peoples business instead of concentraiting on their own problems, they seem to get off by causing upheval in others lives and seem to think they are above everyone else,they thrive on their own self-made dramas..those are the ones we have easily left behind and will not miss...others are slowly realizing that there are much bigger issues to contend with than what 'we' are doing.
In closing we are both very happy and looking forward to all the amazing memories to come!
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reader, just curious2 +, writes (23 July 2009):
just curious2 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you Uncle Phil.....your support has been very helpful! I have already taken the steps you've suggested and I guess now we'll just have to wait and see.
I'll let you know how things go, thanks once again!!!
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reader, just curious2 +, writes (22 July 2009):
just curious2 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks to those whom have answered my question(s) so far, sometimes I feel torn over this and I just want to enjoy the true love that I have found, it helps a great deal to hear supportive words instead of condemnations...Thank You!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2009): My family also tried to run my life when I was in my mid 30s and I just had to ignore them. At that age, they have no business trying to run your personal life. Them telling lies just tells me that you have to distance yourselves from the members of the family who are doing this. It is none of their business. You have both been classified as adults for well over 10 years and it is your lives to live as you see fit. If you are doing nothing illegal or hurting no one then do what you want. I cannot speak to what the Bible says, but I can speak to my opinions on morality and what is right.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2009): OK Mr. Anonymous - you tell me where in the bible it says that! It's a fact - accepted by the Catholic Church - that Joseph and Mary, Jesus' parents were first cousins.
Near kin, in this context is father/daughter, mother/son, aunt/nephew, uncle/niece and grandparents/grandchildren and no doubt a couple of others. Cousins are not classed as near kin so no, it's not wrong in any sense of the word - he's your first cousin once removed.
I don't know how you can stop your family gossiping, but it could amount to slander, and if it gets really bad a lawyer's letter might shut them up. The thing is, it doesn't really matter what they say and you don't have to let it bother you. If you're happy don't let them piss on your fireworks. None of their damned business anyway.
Take a look at http://www.cousincouples.com - you'll find lots of interesting info there.
Finally, yes, it's acceptable in God's eyes
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2009): I think the bible is against this, since it's your aunts' sons' son. The Bible says it's against your aunt and it's against any related children, as long as they share the same bloodline, so I think the Bible is against it.
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