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writes: Ok I've been talking to this girl online and I really like and she seem to like me, and we text each other like nearly everyday and we are making plans to meet up. But it's gotten a point where I can't think of anything to talk about and I've asked all the get to know her questions. I'm not the most talkative person but I need some advice on what to talk about?thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 December 2010): Ask her questions about herself and her life, when you meet, and talk about anything you would talk about to others. Well, within reason!
It's not everyone who is talkative - she may be a real chatterbox and just want to be listened to!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOk
Thanks for your advice, hopefull meeting up with her soon.
Thanks again
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2010): The big thing about ALL this internet chatting, dating virtually is that it leaves out what really makes us humans connect, and that is 'chemistry' between two people, and where online dating is concerned it is advised to meet very soon after the initial ' virtual connection ' as people put so much into the virtual, and believe, feel it is going to be the same in the real world.
The reason you've hit a barrier with the talking/chatting is that normally, when we meet in the physical sense first, we are using all our senses to communicate, watching how they smile, hear their voice, watch their moves, interact with lots of eye contact all this plays a part in good communication, so yes you need to meet soon, and put it to the test and see you feel about each other in the flesh.
I have a whole chapter in my book dedicated to online dating, where people spend too long over a computer and not hooking up conventionally, so I understand completely what you are going through.
Hope it goes well for you when you do meet!
Good luck!
Jilly
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2010): Yeah try meeting up soon and see if you have stuff to talk about then. Perhaps you're just not good at talking online or through text. If however you meet in person and don't have much to talk about then maybe you just don't have enough in common.
Try meeting up though. Maybe there's just a bit ice that needs breaking or maybe you've just reached the end of the line as far as small talk goes and you need to get to know each other personally in order to be able to open up and talk more.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2010): Tell her about your day?
Tell her about your views on stuff?
Talk about books and films?
If the conversation is dead then I would be cautious of meeting as it could be VERY uncomfortable.
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