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writes:Well I have sure landed myself in a situation. It all started about 7 months ago.A male friend of mine had a girl friend that I was instantly attracted to. It was clear she had feelings for me as well, even though she is straight. When we first started spending time together it just felt really intense, lots of flirting and prolonged eye contact. When I would get ready to leave she would ask me not to. I thought of her constantly, I also felt guilty because she was my friends GF. So I initiated some alone time by asking her to go to the zoo with me, we had an incredible time, ended up staying the night in a hotel by the beach. (nothing happened) This was the first of many many trips and adventures together.During one trip with her, myself and another friend I mentioned the apartment next to me was available if they wanted to move in next to me. (she was staying at her dads because her BF is kinda a jerk, nothing related to our relationship at this point, and her friend needed a place too.) The decision had been made that they would move in next door to me and then we started spending even more time together. All during this time she is seeing a few different men. She sleeps in my bed often and likes to cuddle with me. (she also knows I am a lesbian, and I have feelings for her) A couple months after they moved in we decided it is silly to pay for two small apartments when we could just get a big house for the same price and share it. It took us two months to find that house but we did. Now just us two live in a big four bedroom house together, and things sure are complicated. During our two month house search we have had sex 7 or 8 times, but this girl is the queen of mixed signals. She has joked several times about us getting married, stated out right that she could see herself ending up with me long term. She has also said that she is straight and pictures herself ending up with a man. I noticed when she goes somewhere with friends or family and asks me to go she brings a guy with her. When we are out on our own she seems more affectionate. I wonder if she is worried what people think, or if she is scared to have feelings for me. She has backed off sexually since we moved in together. (it has been two weeks) She still sleeps in my bed sometimes, but she also has guys stay the night. I think I am in love with this girl. Im going a bit crazy over the whole situation. Should I run or fight for her?
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (7 September 2014):
 Since this will never work out for the best. You should take the high ground and run for it!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2014): Run..it sounds like she is giving you lip service...telling you what you want to hear so she can keep you around. I doubt she sees what you guys have ad long term. You are just entertainment when she has nothing else to do....RUN!
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