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writes:I have a female friend who has just figured out that I have feelings for her and now she's getting awkward and doesn't talk to me as much. Things aren't like they used to be. I'm worried if this keeps going we may end up not talking whatsoever. If it meant i'd have to just like her as a friend again i'd rather that, than have no contact with herin my life. What do I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2014): You should ask her to have a talk with you. Tell her how much her friendship means to you, and that you did not mean to make her uncomfortable. Then ask her if she wants to remain friends. Promise to be a good friend; even though you really feel more. Don't worry, I don't think you will lose all contact with her. She's just backing off.
If she wants to remain friends, and you want things to be the way they used to; you have to behave the way you used to. No weird stuff to make her nervous.
Don't scare and confuse her by buying her things and making her feel guilty. You can't bribe her into changing the way she feels. It's already awkward, and you will only make it worse.
If you find that it's too hard to only be a friend, or that you get jealous when she is talking to other boys. You didn't keep your promise. That means you are not satisfied just being a friend. You need to take some time-off and away from her. Hangout with other girls for awhile. It will give your feelings a little time to change.
When a girl doesn't have the same feelings for you as you have for her, the mature thing to do is to accept it. You will be very brave and mature for doing this.
You can't force people to feel they way you want them to.
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reader, aya yoyo  +, writes (7 September 2014):
first of all you must make sure of you feeling and imagine your life without her if it seems hard then you love her if not then you don't love her.second you should confess your feelings dont be afraid girsl love the brave guy and show her how much you love her, buy her chocolate or flowers and if she refused then ask her to stay friends.and go on with you life cuz life dosn't stop at anyone
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