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writes:I need advice, im planning a romantic night for my boyfriend tomorrow night so i need answers asap! i planned on lighting 2 candles "the room is small) and getting some rose peddels putting some on the floor and bed, buting a 12 pack of his fav. soda and putting them on the bed, and wearing a langerie in hopes i can sspice things up... sound good? anything to add? opinions??? Reply to this Question
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (22 July 2012):
 that would go over like a lead balloon in my house...
the flowers would make him sneeze
the soda give him gas
he'd knock over the candles and get wax on everything...
and he'd laugh at me...
as for lingerie, I had a boyfriend once who when shown new lingerie said it perfectly with "nice, it will make a lovely pile on the floor" ....
I also had a husband once who found me sexiest in a pair of boxer shorts and a wife beater (tank top) shirt... go figure..
Are you spicing things up for a special reason or is this just an attempt to get the attention of a boyfriend who is not meeting your expectations... I sense a bit of desperation in the post... not sure why at 18-21 you feel the need to try this hard... how long have you and bf been together and how long have you been sexual...
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (22 July 2012):
 *favourite snack and movie. Sorry for all the errors.. I wrote a bit too fast.
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reader, chigirl +, writes (22 July 2012):
Why the soda? If he drinks all that you'll just end up alone in bed while he's at the bathroom.
If you want to spice thinsg up buy a pineapple. Then you both eat it, then wait a few hours, then enjoy... It takes away any flavour/scent you have down there on both of you, which gives a different experience.
You can also have some strawberries and feed each other. But I don't see how sodas are going to make this romantic in any way.
Is he a romantic guy? Does he appreciate this sort of thing? Just try to imagine what he would like, as all guys are different. But keep it simple and elegenat, don't have too much going on. You can have the rose pedals and yourself in nice underwear : sexual romance. OR, you can have his favourite soda and maybe favourite snack and move and do a romantic date night: fun romance. But doing both things might be a bit over the top. When will he have time to drink this soda if you're interested in sex? And would he need to drink that much? Wouldn't that just make him want to pee?
I'm a little confused about your plan, that's all. Maybe you don't have a plan? Try to make one. What are you hoping to achieve with all this romance? And what would be the best way to go about it?
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reader, Abella +, writes (22 July 2012):
 First of all you are trying far too hard.
What your man would really love is if you listen rapt to his stories. Don't interrupt him. Let him tell you more about him. Let him go on at length about the things that are important to him. Really truly listen intently to him and ask him to explain anything that you think sounds interesting.
have a plate of nice nibbles on hand. And some soda. If he has to drive home you do not want to send him home in a drunk state. A ticket for driving under the influence is likely to ruin the night. Hence the soda suggestions.
Greet him in clothing. Day clothing. You just being there. Smelling nice and looking good, hair freshly washed is romantic enough for him.
Have an agreed time when it is time to say goodbye. Even if you have to make up a story about a deadline for an assignment. As guys appreciate a girl who can set boundaries.
No way do you buy him enough drink to get wasted. He will not be romantic at all if you allow that. He will just be inebriated and lecherous and that is not romantic. If he needs that much liquor to encourage him to be romantic then he is no catch.
And don't lay your lingerie and the petals on the bed as an open invitation that represents the main course on the menu. In fact it might be nicer if you put some cushions on the bed so it more resembles a sofa than a bed. Leave your pretty lingerie in the side drawer.
You are not there to give him the green light.
He is the one who should be wooing you.
And don't do so much that there is nothing left for him to do that could make it even more romantic when he wants to initiate the Grande Gesture.
Some romance can be created by you but you are not being romantic by making your intentions so obvious.
A man loves to know that there is a challenge and that you are not a foregone conclusion when it comes to making your intentions so clear and plain.
Even if things have been romantic in the past between the two of you. Still allow the guy to initiate more so that he thinks it is all his idea. And at his place, not yours.
Where is there any challenge in this for your man?
Candles in groups of odd numbers always look more attractive and can be positioned more easily. Just never forget the candles as the result of forgotten candles can be catastrophic.
At the end of the evening, do thank him for his company. Give him a sweet kiss.
If you want to interest and keep a guy it does not help if you allow yourself to be served up on a platter.
Keep a little mystery going. Do not tell him your life history in 15 minutes.
And never think that by giving to your guy that he will give as much back in return. Life does not work like that.
A guy who respects you will still love you more, even if you hold back on sex until you both know each other a lot better. And that applies even if you have already been intimate.
Put the brakes on a little - both of you will appreciate why this is important, eventually
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reader, Glacier  +, writes (22 July 2012):
sounds pretty romantic already. Perhaps you could add some appropriate music in the background?
You could have some (romantic) subjects to talk about ready.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2012): If he has allergies I would make the candles non-scented ones as there is nothing worse then to deal with bodily troubles when getting close. If he has no allergies then I would suggest maybe a touch of perfume in special areas or a nice slight scent around the room. If you know any music that you both enjoy or would put your emotions up high for each other then that might be nice to add too in the background. CD's set up ahead of time so that you do not have to fiddle around with them once he is there. What you have planned so far sounds great. Have a super time!!!!!! Keeping things uncluttered and clean is a 1st thought too of course. I hope you get a bunch more responses other then mine before your beautiful night to come. Bye.
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