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writes:Dear All,I have a problem in that I simply do not know whether I have romantic love for a particular lady or whether it is just a glorified "adult crush".I feel "romantically fond" of her and, to be honest, I am starting to feel slightly "smitten" as well.I wonder whether this is a different way of feeling the emotion that is referred to as romantic love. What do you think!I should also mention that i'm in my mid 'fifties' and the lady that I have these feelings for is not much younger than me!Thanks.
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reader, Grenville Dixon +, writes (9 August 2009):
Grenville Dixon is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you to you guys who answered the question that I posted. Funnily enough, I recall that when I was in my mid "twenties" I felt 'romantically fond' of two completely different women; thankfully not at the same time!
At the time feeling 'romantically fond' followed an initial sexual attraction. And now, in the year 2009, I started to become attracted to this particular lady only after I started to have these 'romantically fond' feelings for her.
This seems a little bit unusual. What do you think?
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2009): i think that you need to talk to her about your feelings for her. and i think this will help you determine whether it is a crush or actual love.
good luck x
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reader, wherestheinstructions? +, writes (2 August 2009):
Well it would be unusual at your time of life for you not to know the difference from previous experience.
Nevertheless, unless you have religious or cultural beliefs that love without sex is more 'true', then the thing that distinguishes a friendship from a relationship is sexual chemistry. Do you fancy this woman on a sexual level ?
Romance is all well and good, but life isn't a movie and a relationship requires friendship, sexual interest and lots of hard work.
How does she feel ?
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reader, urbanking99 +, writes (1 August 2009):
Have you talked to the woman in question? Is she married or single? Does she have a boyfriend?
As she is not much younger than you why not take the risk of asking her. You'll never know!
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