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writes:I read a question early today where somebody asked 'is revenge worthwhile' and the answers on there were very interesting! The main thing everyone said was that 'ignoring them and showing that they didn't effect you, or that they aren't a part of your life is the best revenge!!' Is this true!? And why is that? Has anyone ever done this or experienced this revenge first hand?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2011): Actually I kind of disagree with the statement on the level of semantics 'ignoring them and showing that they didn't effect you, or that they aren't a part of your life is the best revenge!!'
Having to show is too much emotion for me still. Complete apathy is what works best for revenge I find, because when you really don't care, you don't need to "show" it. You just couldn't care less whether they think you care or not. Faking it is kind of obvious, people that try to show they don't care still do and you can tell.
Actually having moved on and being happy works the best.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (20 May 2011):
 Yes, I experienced this and it feels good.
Revenge is about power. When someone dumps you in bad way or betrays you, you feel bad because you have lost their love or friendship or what else is your relationship is about, but also because you have no control over the situation, you have to submit to something you did not want, and that makes you feel helpless , powerless and inferior. The attempt to hurt your offfender is an attempt to readjust the balance of power, making him/her undergo some bad experience that he/she has no control over.
But , imagine that you don't care anymore. You are happy, you are busy with your life, you have a new partner. There is nothing that that person can do to affect you any more. They can ignore you or praise you or insult you, it's all the same for you. They have lost any hold on you and on your moods, there is NOTHING they can make you do or feel. The power is back, it's all yours again. You are not a victim, you are a winner- and winners can afford to be generous.
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