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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Dear Agony Aunt(i know its long please help me! im so upset)Latley, i've been experiencing alot of problems with my ex-boyfriend he used to be quite mean to me but then things got better and latley he dumped me i'll start from the top to say how its been between me and him we have been on and off a few times he dumped me every time but latley it was 2 months long things were going ok he used to joke sometimes about dumping me and other things that werent funny calling me a ho or a whore and i told him i didnt like it so he got mad and said he wont do it again but in august time i went on a 9 day camp with cadets and he said he would phone me every day but he phoned me once then he said he cant be arsed but then texted me once in that week i was thinking about our relationship and how he has been with me and it really hurt and in that week i quite liked this boy his name was reece and my boyfriend hated him used to call him ugly and we hanged around alot in that week he offered me support when i was upset about my ex boyfriend who i was with at the time and he told me i shouldnt be with someone who treats me so badly me and reece became very close and had alot of fun in activities and stuff in the week and on the last night of this camp there was a disco and he asked me to go with him so i said yes and people said we looked good as a couple and we should be together i tryed to hide that fact that i really liked him i told people i'd pick reece but part of me still wanted callum because i loved him so at the disco we went as friends but it got quite bad me and reece were dancing all night and reece kissed me i couldnt take it and i was scared of what callum would say and i had a big desicsion my ex boyfriend callum or reece i ran out of the disco after the kiss and i cryed with my friend ciaran as he had his own problems everyone said pick reece and the following day me and reece were close holding hands kissing at the back of the coach and everyone else on the coach knew callum i was leading reece on and i told him that i liked him but i had to think of callum because it wouldnt be fair so everytime reece said i love you i couldnt say i love you too i said i like you but i just dont know but i did love him i was just too scared to tell him he got how i felt and he thought i would pick him i told him i'd have to see how callum reacted i wanted both of them but when i got back home i told callum to meet me because we didnt live close and we didnt meet often so i told him with friend ciaran but before iw as running around screaming at ciaran saying i cant do this but i told callum and he went crazy i held him and said callum shutup and listen i told him reece fell in love with me and i couldnt help it i told callum me and reece only shared one kiss at the disco and danced so me and callum were quite okay for awhile and in the holiday told him i just felt so upset that i loved him so much and we never saw each other he said its because he hates the area i live in and i couldnt go see him because my parents didnt allow it but then i cryed and my parents argued with me and soon they said i was allowed but there would be terms and conditions latley callum had been hanging around with a boy called zak i knew him from cadets and we got along quite well even tho he could be a twat sometime me and callum were planning to meet the following week and one night at cadets when i was saying bye to callum he told me that zak was a bisexual and that he had tryed to kiss callum he had also said that he likes zak a little but he loves me no matter what and he would always pick me over him i was very confused and upset and on the way home with my sister and friend laura i was crying and laura knew me and callum very well she went to his school and i told her who it was and she was so pissed off that night i was texting callum and i was saying how much i loved him and i told him i said nothing to laura and emma that night callum joked that he was with zak i was scared and upset and he had ago at me for being upset and he then later admitted he was wrong the following day i was at school in a science lesson and i recieve a text saying you told laura you bitch i cant trust you youre dumped i was so upset and i ran out of science crying because i really did lov him he sed that the bi thing went all around school but my friend found out it only went round a few people so he lied to me to make me feel worse i was so upset on msn i told him how sorry i was he hated me told me how much i deserved being upset wanting the one person i truly love but after a while he calmed down and we could talk i told him i love him and he said i love you too but its difficult we need some space so days went by but he still didnt want me bk then he satrted saying he was in cam chat rooms chatting up lads and girls then i saw him when i was goin back home from cadets i ran away from my sister crying and she told callums sister and callums sister wanted us to get back together she made a video of me and him about how long we've been together and one of my friend said he laughed at the video she told callum how much o a dick he was so he came to me and said whats wrong i was crying and he hugged me he said what have i done wrong i said you dumped me crying uncontrollably in his arms and i was complaining again and we argued so much through that week he said meet me on saturday and we can talk about this a few nights before i had been cutting myself with a stanley knife because i was so upset crying every day and i said to him i wont eat or sleep until we are together and then he sed you better and i said im ugly no one likes me but you he said if im ugly hes the king of england i had been ignoring him the past few days and he was saying youve been ignoring me dont talk to me and now hes just saying i tell everyone about whats happened its just because im so upset and now i just dont know what to do the guy reece is being nice to me latley smiling at me and ive been getting hugs off himm and i told him callum dumped and he asked why i didnt want to explain because it always gets back to callum somehow i quite like reece and how i have my weird ways at cadets making little comments everyone laughs at reece gives me that weird look then a smile i heard a saying on msn if you cant get a second chance then give your self a second chance im thinking about trying to get with reece but i still love callum i dont know what to do please help me agony aunt.
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reader, crazychab8  +, writes (5 October 2008):
ok it sounds to me that you really need to leave him, but I don't know this guy. I mean just by what you are saying I think that he is a dick. No guy would treat you like that if he loved you. He is just using you as someone to lean on until he gets someone better. I think that you can do better and that you deserve better.
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