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30-35,
*rianawhiteside
writes: From my past of being sexual abused... as well as mental and physical abused it is really starting to effect my relationships... I am 18 yrs. Iv been in many relationships but i can never come to being intimate with anyone. I have difficulty in allowing myself to trust or in knowing who to trust. I feel powerless; i learn how to behave as though everything is fine. While keeping my true thoughts and feelings hidden, even from my self... therefore making intimacy difficult. Instead of growing up to experience the body as a source of pleasure, iv experienced it as a source of pain. i think sex as a source of control rather than an expression of love. As a result iv withdrawn from sex or use sex as a way to get affection. I cant even trust the ppl who are supposed to love and protect me. I have no control over my body and other ppls needs come ahead of mine.... now my fear is how long will this occur? My bfs have left me cuz i wouldn't give them sex and now im in a 5 month relationship w/ this guy and we really care a lot about each other but now he thinks he cant please me cuz i cant be sexual and i never feel anything.... he gets pist and i feel like shit cuz i cant do anything or anything about it.... i feal as though he is gunna leave me eventually because of the fact i cant be intimate..... idk what to do and will i ever be able to get married or start a family? no guy will want to stay with me if i can never show any type or intimacy. Thats the last point of a relationship to get comfortable together and share that moment of pleasure together.... please tell me what i can do? counseling never helped me so what else is there? please help me.... Reply to this Question
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reader, Vagn  +, writes (4 February 2009):
 a relationship is not just about sex or gettin intamite but gettin on very well with the person that is what it is about but try not to think about the past but think of the future but i would believe that it would be best for you to go and speak to some one who can help you with your mental problems but it is up to you what you decide to do but try and get over the past even tho i know it is very bad but poeple should not be that nasty and you should do what you think is right by you but just try and speak to some one or even sit down with your partner and discuss
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