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writes: Say you were with a girl who did not find penetration pleasureable by preference or had a sexual dysfunction that prevented sex from being satisfying.could you stay in a relationship where you only had oral sex??
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioncan someone help me
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI don't get any pleasure out of penetration. It feels like nothing to me, gives me discomfort and I dry up even wehn I use plenty of lube. Only oral sex feels great to me. I've been to the GYN and she told me I had vaginismus and that if penetration isn't enjoyable to me then just have oral sex. She said that is just how my body is made. I am low income and don't have any real insurance to see a specialist or get better help so this is something that i have to deal with.
I thought a guy would be a bit more understanding about my problem but I guess not. From reading the responses, I will just have to just fake it and act like I really like sex in order to sustain any real relationship with a man.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2007): Sex should be a loving and shared thing. The oral sex will be ok for a time but i personally think that without penetration then it is going nowhere, sorry, but that is my view.But if you love that person then you will accept that this is how it is going to be. It depends on how you feel about maybe spending a lifetime like this.
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reader, kenny  + ♥, writes (8 November 2007):
 I think it would depend on how i felt about the person in question. If i loved them with all my heart then i would stick with it a try my best to make it work. There is more to a relationship than just penetrative sex, oral sex can be very pleasurable and create lots of arousal.
Good luck x
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reader, tux +, writes (8 November 2007):
 Well personally I enjoy oral sex a bit more as long as its mutual. Though penetration is good from time to time.. It's all a matter of preference for who you are with. There's more to love than just sex. But in the end, it's a matter of what you/them want in the relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2007): Hello,
I believe that sex should be enjoyed by both. I can see that it is hindering your relationship (or preventing one). If you have a dysfunction that is treatable by your doctor, I would look at that option before calling it quits on sex. You dont like it by 'preference' or is it a dysfunction? Sounds to me that you are confused about your body. Maybe you just havent found a person that pleases you in that way. It is much harder for women to relax to the point of orgasm than a man. Your partner might not be aware, but very few women can enjoy sex without clitoral stimulation. But maybe you mean to say that you prefer oral sex? Or you just dont like sex?
But to answer your actual question. Would I STAY in a relationship? If you mean no intercourse, forever, my answer is no. Oral is great, but no substitute.
My advice is to get to try and find a happy medium. You do want to please your partner right? Sex every once in while will not kill you, and my money says you will actually enjoy it. It might take time. You might want to give us more info on your situation.
Best of luck, and don't give up.
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