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writes: I am really lonely. I have never admitted this to anyone. I have friends and we go out all the time, but I feel like something is missing in my life. Which if you knew me that would sound completely insane because I have everything going for me right now; I am doing great in school, and in the two sports I play. And there is a guy but he is dating my friend. I don't know if he is worth the risk of losing my best friend. But we connect on this whole other level. I came out of this awful relationship just a few months ago and haven't been able to move on and live life the way i want to. He makes me feel free again. He makes me smile which never used to be an accomplishment. Now that I have put some distance between us so that nothing happens I feel lonely. So my question is do I go after him because he is the only person who makes me feel alive?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2006): Maybe you should talk to the guy about it. if he feels the same way about you then go for it! i'm talking from experience here. i was in a very similar situation not too long ago and although my friend was alittle hurt, she can now see how happy her ex makes me and everything's cool. However, if u guys do decide to hook up, you should definitely talk to your friend about it first.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2006): if this friend is a good one, there is noway that you should ditch her for a guy, cos even if the guy dumps you, your friends will always be there for you. But if you are prepared to lose a friend then go for it. But you have to make sure this guy really truly does feel the same way about you. If he doesnt then you could have made an awful mistake. If you do feel lonely then get out! join clubs! go around the town! meet new guys, do things you haven't done before, and who knows? you may finds the perfect guy! Also i should point out that most guys, even if they are going out with someone, still flirt with other girls. In my opinion it isnt worth it, but you never know. Good luck
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reader, xxxsoulsistaxxx  +, writes (5 January 2006):
 This is a risky situation; do you risk losing your friend for a guy? I would say no, men will come and go but friends will be there through it all. I know you're lonely and I think you need to broaden your horizons, go to new places, meet new people and you'll soon see there's more great guys out there, not just your mates boyfriend.
In a way, do you think you are a bit jealous of your friend? I find that people who are jealous of someone else and can't really work out why often try to sabotage the other persons life by taking boyfriends etc. Please think carefully before making a move on him, doesn't your friend mean more to you than all this?!
I hope you get some help for your feelings at the moment and hope everything works out ok. You seem really low and, I know as I've suffered from depression, this can be difficult to understand when your life seems perfect at the time. Get some counselling and sort your life out before you start even thinking about men. Good luck
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