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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hey, I joined the university gym about 2 months or so ago, and since I joined I have been going every day at least 6 times a week because my gym closed down. When I was working out one day I saw the most gorgeous guy there, and as weeks have progressed, he seems to be as into fitness as myself, he goes every day also. Now, at my last gym being a regular I made friends etc and got to know the regulars. I am usually opposed to talking to people whilst working out because I am there for me, but when there is a guy who is just my type who goes as frequently as me is there, I get distracted. A friend of mine came in the gym one day and he also spoke to him, so we have a mutual friend in common. The other thing is, I can't tell if he is interested or not and if he is single or not. My gut instinct tells me he is interested at least physically, he always looks at me and I feel embarrassed because I am always there at the same time as him and I don't want him to think I'm a creepy stalker, so recently Ive been trying to go not at the times he goes, I smiled at him the other day and he smiled back but looked to the ground after, and as he was getting out of his car he was looking straight at me, then when I walked past I glanced at him but hurried past because it's getting wierd I see him like 4 times a week. He goes to socialise more though I think, but I think he is soo incredibly attractive and I don't know how to intiate conversation and I am just confused. I workout hard for myself, but I am so distracted when he is around and he is always looking at me, and he has given me prolonged eye contact about 3 times now, on the third one i smiled at him out of politeness because I do see him sooo frequently, I like how he is concerned about fitness but I want to know if he is single, surely a guy wouldn't spend that much of his time at a gym if he had a girl, and on top of that I saw him on a night out once but I think he was drunk he was with a bunch of guys no girls, but he was too gone to recognise me. Maybe I just like the mystery of it all I don't know, but I noticed also that when I talk to this other guy who has become a friend of mine there, he is always watching and I can see out the corner of my eye in the room opposite that he is watching me talking to this other guy. I realised I do talk to a lot of guys in the gym not out of purpose but because I know them from university, and I know girs too but he always seems to be around when I am talking to a guy. I am not being weird but I know that I am a very good looking girl, I am constantly being hit on wherever I am even in my worst clothes or at work or in slacks. My gut feeling tells me that he thinks I am attractive, there are other guys that pay me as much attention in the gym but I don't care they are not my type. For some reason I think he is out of my league and not actually interested and doesnt find me attractive, then I think well he must have a girlfriend already but the mutual friend said he is really busy with his course, I don't even know why I am obsessing I just want to know if he sounds interested or not, and how to go about initiating conversation without seeming like a desperate person or anything like that, I find it easier to talk to people I am not attracted to that is another thing I have noticed, so maybe he is similar, I heard him being quite loud and boisterous when with some lads near where I was, and when I was doing a yoga stretch with my head towards the ceiling I could see him looking directly at me.Maybe it was a bad move to smile I don't know, I just remember him smiling back at me then looking down at the floor and smiling I am sooooooooooooo confused! I just want some help and answers because I need to focus on my exams and build a friendship then I probably won't like him any more because the mysterious element would have disappeared.
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reader, Tiger14  +, writes (10 April 2009):
 i think he is interested..i mean u already talk to the guy y not hang out or just simply ask if he has a girl..i mean whats the worse that can happenl..you said your attracttive..is obvious he thinks you are and he is always staring at you come on he so thinks your hot girl just ask..i mean us woman have to be spontaneous sometimes..you will only get what you want by looking for it ;-)
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