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writes:okay i have a confusing situation.. well for me dont know about you guys.i had a fwb about 2 months raftly.. it was going well.. untill she met this another guy and she was falling for him so we stopped.but i didnt wanted to stop so i told her how i felt and so she thought it about it for 2 weeks to decided what to do. untill she did i got kinda clingy.. msging abit more often then usual coz i was afraid losing her.She went for a holiday for a week when she came back she told me the big news.. that we should stop doing this. I was devastated.. she told me that she had no feelings towards me anymore..when we ended we were both little teary she wanted to stay friends but i kinda didnt answer to that one. coz i was still shocked. But its probably i had too much hope on her..But atm i feel abandoned and i resent her for ending it.. i havent spoken to her for 3 weeks but saw her out at a local bar and we didnt talk and we were both ignoring each other.what should i do? i still think about her all the time and i want to know if she is too..i dont know if she is still seeing him either.. plz let us know..will it be weird if i just ask for a casual sex?? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 September 2011): so basically you're asking if you can go back to being fwb. I don't think so, because bottom line is that she's the one who wanted to stop being fwb's because she found someone else that she wanted to be in a relationship with. This doesn't have anything to do with you having admitted feelings to her, it's just that she has decided to pursue a relationship with someone else and wants to honor that relationship.
if she breaks up with him then maybe you'll have another chance. but since there's no telling if and when that will happen, it's best for you to move on from her. you can still casually contact her just to say hi and gauge from there how she feels towards you.
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reader, kblade +, writes (30 September 2011):
kblade is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you so much for your help guys.. feel much better now.. i think time is the only solution for now.. and yes i have been talking to other girls to forget about her.. so its been okay..
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reader, Nataly  +, writes (29 September 2011):
Wow dude i so get you and were youre coming from i had a fwb too and i eneded up liking hima nd getting feelings and trust me as i tell you let her go. It will be better for you because you need time to get detached try talking to someone esle or just getting her out of your life a bit and once your strong and have lost all feeelings for her hit her up and try to be friends trust me itll work its goingot be hard but it will work!
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (29 September 2011):
 Asking her for 'just casual sex' would not only be weird, but totally inappropriate, and it would make you look like a desperate creep. Do not ask.
She's made her decision and all you can do is respect it. Maybe one day she will change her mind about you, but don't wait about for that to happen.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2011): I think that the best thing you can do right now is give it space and time and allow yourself to heal. I don't think sex is an answer here. Plus since you have actual feelings forher, it isn't actually casual, now is it? It's sex with a motive.
I understand you like her, but unfortunately she has said no. You need to find someone who you can have both things with: sex and love. And, hopefully you have learned that this whole FWB thing isn't really that great. I mean, lots of guys and girls say they can do it, maybe there are a few who can, but in the end someone usually gets hurt.
It was your heart this time. :(
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