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writes:Hi, this is my first time posting. But this has been on my mind as of late. Is Porn on the web any different than live webcam shows?? I just found out my BF looks at live webcam shows on the net. The porn doesn't really bother me much, I look at porn myself occasionally but the thought of him watching the live webcams, and possibly interacting with these girls while watching them is totally different and just wrong... this really made feel bad and extremely upset, was really in shock. Am I overreacting??
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 October 2008): Hi babes, I know what you mean. I am pro-porn. I have no problem with video's, magazines or books. Even strippers and lap dancers pose no problems for me. But live web cams, talking to ladies on the phone, this makes me feel uncomfortable. I think it because I don't mind if somebody is looking, but if they start interacting with naked ladies, or touching them, it would make me feel a little upset. I see you like me have no problem with porn, and just like me, you are wondering how far it will go, if web cam and talking is involved. I can only tell you what I would do. I would explain to him my feelings and tell him it seems a little more intimate than video or magazine. I would tell him, that it may get very serious and he could get hooked on one particular girl. I would ask him if he could stop and find other types of pornography and erotica to keep him interested instead. Then I would ask him to "role play" with me, I would ask him to come to me if he wanted to play web cam porn, or talk naughty sex. Hopefully, because I don't usually mind a guys hobbies, he would take on board, that for me, it's one step too far. If he continued to do this, well then I would have to accept that it's the same as porn, as long as no contact with the lady in question is involved.
Sorry babes, the Internet age has made everything harder. Talk to your guy and explain it makes you feel uncomfortable and if you and he could play these games together instead.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 October 2008): I don't blame you for being upset. It's hard enough to compete with images,but now they want to interact with these women as well....where will it stop? Where do we as women draw the line? I think it is natural to feel betrayed, left out, and to wonder why we aren't enough. I think men would feel the same if we went online looking for men to buy us shoes and diamond bracelets that they can't afford to buy us. I'm sorry that I have no answer for you, I do however empathize with you.
I have one more thing to add for the statement about him still coming to you for sex......I think women underestimate the affect of this stuff on men, every time they choose the excitement and novelty and availability and variety of the internet, they have already made a choice to place there sexual energy in there own hand rather than with you and your relationship. It is a dangerous road to go down and I believe we will see the affects that people didn't anticipate in the next 20 years, or sooner, as the 'porn generation' ages. I wish you luck with this guy, you are going to need it!
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