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writes:What say you? When is enough, enough? Does how much you'll put up with depend on the circumstances of your partner's mood swings as well as the length of your relationship, or is it never excusable to take your mood out on your partner?Does anyone have some personal experiences they can relate to me on this one?I'm just looking for general opinions on the topic of stress affecting your partner's mood, causing them to take it out on you. Reply to this Question
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reader, Butterflyfly  +, writes (20 November 2008):
 DO not put up with strops and mood swings... At best as a controlled exercise for a defined period of time you could try to behave differently with him when he takes it out on you. BUt people can't change unless they want to.. sounds like this is the work of a counsellor, not of a partner's. HOw will your relationship grow if you feel you're walkign on egg-shells with him?
The exercise I meant was to try stay as calm as possible when he has his mood swings and never get involved in an argument or conversation during them, ust calmly let him know that you are there for him, for when he comes back, but at the moment you do not want to know him because his moods are not fair on you. I have tried it with my bf for a while and he is caught unawares most of the times and stops taking it all out on me. But I cannot help thinking, is this what a partner is meant to do in a relationship? What abouy YOUR mood swings? does he shows you emphaty when you need it? All the bext xx
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reader, happytochat  +, writes (17 November 2008):
It is never ok for someone to take their anger/bad mood/stress out on someone.
This is a very unhealthy relationship when that happens.
Its not ok and can haev so many bad effects on the victim. And it also is stopping the person who is taking their anger out on there partner from truly dealing with their emotions properly.
So my answer to your question is, there is no 'point' where you say enough is enough- beause it is never ok.
You have two options:
Either talk to your partner about their non acceptable behaviour and tell them they have to stop it. Or just leave.
What they are doing is a form of abuse.
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