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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 3 years. I feel like I'm really unhappy because I never get to see him. He goes to school upstate and is home for the summer. The entire time he has been here I believe we have spent a total of 6 days together spread out between these past 3 months. He's leaving in two weeks and Always gets upset because he says that I nag him about not hanging out. I just always feel like it is such a hassle for him to ask me to go out or just hang out. When I'm with him, I don't want to do anything. I just want to be there and feel loved and safe but that always seems like that's way too much to ask for. I don't know what to do anymore. I feel like I can't get through to him and I feel like the very lowest of his priorities. I don't want to sink to the bottom but I don't know what to do. I feel neglected and forgotten but I can't tell him that because all he'll tell me is OK SORRY. Nothing has ever changed and I'm really unhappy. I want to feel like someone loves me and shows it and is romantic in their own way without needing to buy gifts. It's been almost 3 years and I haven't even met his parents yet. My friends tell me to break up with him but I don't want to even though I know I should to find something better that will make me happy. I've talked about this so many times to him but I feel like I'm never heard. Then it becomes my fault because he says I act like I never see him when I saw him two weeks ago. TWO WEEKS! I don't know what kind of world he;s living in but I don't think a relationship is seeing each other for a few hours every two weeks. I dont think thats fair and I don't know what to do. What should I do? =[ Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 August 2011): At least two of you have completely different visions of how should the relationship look like. You have certain needs which are not met in that relationship and it seems that he doesn't care much to even listen to them. No problem, then it just means that two of you are not a match.
That is at least. It can be also that he is not really interested in you and plays this game to have you when he wishes and have nothing else to do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 August 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the advice! It does help. I just don't think he knows what's coming :/ because he thinks as long as hes ok then everyone is ok.
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