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writes: Dear agony auntsI pulled a beautiful girl at work, who ive been keen on for ages and have organised a date with her, and she said yes, and it was quite literally music to my ears.How do dates normally work? I know you have to look smart, and have clean teeth. But don't know anything else apart from that. Do you kiss the girl on the cheek when you meet her or hug her and what happens at the end?This is a big deal for me as its my first date with her and don't want to make any mistakes.I'd appreciate some advice and help on this.The date is at the weekend.
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reader, Ivyblue  +, writes (22 June 2016):
 'Pulled' a girl? Hmmm...bit boorish. So my advice if it comes up in conversation about her agreeing to go out with you that you say " I really glad you accepted my invitation" and not "Wow..I can't believe I pulled you" lol. Yes..Yes Yes defiantly look sharp and smell good. I agree, a quick peck on the cheek is acceptable. Maybe I'm old fashioned, but I DONT CARE- be a gentleman. Not ott but just a few things can go a long way. For example letting her order drinks and food first, pulling out her chair or opening the car door and pay for the evening. If she offers to go dutch, acknowledge and thank her but still -you pay and perhaps suggest- an ulterior motive "Next time". Don't get pissed, that's not a good look. And show a genuine interest in what she has to say and engage in wanting to know more about her rather than talking about you, you, you. As for the end of the night, well that depends on what happens during the night. But again a gentleman would walk her to her car,taxi or train and not expect much more than a peck on the cheek that started the night off. If it turns into something a bit more-bonus! Good luck hope it turns out to be a great night
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reader, Ivyblue +, writes (22 June 2016):
'Pulled' a girl? Hmmm...bit boorish. So my advice if it comes up in conversation about her agreeing to go out with you that you say " I really glad you accepted my invitation" and not "Wow..I can't believe I pulled you" lol. Yes..Yes Yes defiantly look sharp and smell good. I agree, a quick peck on the cheek is acceptable. Maybe I'm old fashioned, but I DONT CARE- be a gentleman. Not ott but just a few things can go a long way. For example letting her order drinks and food first, pulling out her chair or opening the car door and pay for the evening. If she offers to go dutch, acknowledge and thank her but still -you pay and perhaps suggest- an ulterior motive "Next time". Don't get pissed, that's not a good look. And show a genuine interest in what she has to say and engage in wanting to know more about her rather than talking about you, you, you. As for the end of the night, well that depends on what happens during the night. But again a gentleman would walk her to her car,taxi or train and not expect much more than a peck on the cheek that started the night off. If it turns into something a bit more-bonus! Good luck hope it turns out to be a great night
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2016): A kiss on the cheek is fine for me. I will do. Sorry to use the term pulled, it's just I'm very excited about this date and I'm saying words I don't mean.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2016): First dates can be a bit awkward so maybe have some conversation starters up your sleeve just in case there's an awkward silence. And try not to talk about work the whole time. As far as kissing goes just play it by ear. If in doubt, wait..
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2016): I don't have a car, but I will sit on the bench with her.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (21 June 2016):
 Take her to Makeout Point... and invite her to sit with you in the back seat of your car.... claiming that THAT is the best place to view the submarine races that you and she are about to watch......
This worked for me..... OOoooops, I forgot... it NEVER worked for me.....
Oh well... give it your best...
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reader, Andie's Thoughts  +, writes (21 June 2016):
 I'd avoid using the term "pulled", as it's not a great way of saying "kissed"/"made out with" - but that's not too major.For the greeting, see what her body language says - often a hug is done, but one kiss on the cheek sometimes happens too.One flower may be nice, like one rose.Rehearse a few topics to bring up, to help if you're not sure what to say.Be interested in what she has to say and listen to her. If you can, make some mental notes of things she says, so that you can remember for when you have another date or just see each other around.Pay for the date, unless she insists to pay for half.Be polite and friendly.Be sweet, but don't over-do it with romantic things.Don't order anything for her, unless she gives you the go ahead to do so.Don't expect a kiss on the lips or anything more after the date - a kiss may happen, but it could just be a kiss on the cheek, which isn't automatically a bad sign.Relax and enjoy :)
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