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writes:A psychic told me not to have sex with my man until April. Hmm my man is a scorpio and I know how much he loves sex. How can I pull this off. SO far its been working because we are in a LDR and just ended a fight that lasted with a month of silence between us. We are back together now and he has been pressing for us to see each other. I have made an excuse that I had a busy weekend last week. For this upcoming weekend, the excuse is that tickets are really on the high side like extremely expensive. I am running out of excuses because I know by next week if the ticket is still high he will ask that we split the money and he will repay me later.What do I do? The psychic said it is for our own good if we want to be together. She said if we get close before April I will get hurt again so its best I wait for the perfect timing for our relationship to work. She did not object to us seeing each other, she just said sex should be avoided at all cost. I know you all will think why do I believe psychics? I dont until last year when we were going through some rough times. I have to say these pyschic have really helped to put through this relationship and everything predicted have been true. So I believe what they say. They are not Clei Patra so far they have said things to me that they could not have possibly known without me telling them.If you love your man and you got a warning like this how will you handle it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYour current attitude to your relationship is slowly causing it to decay, because you are behaving like a prime minister at war, treating him like the enemy state that must be conquered with spies, accusations and threats.I did not really see myself doing this until you said it. After giving everything some thought, I am going to make some changes on my end. I have to give him the chance to trust him again. We have been having some really deep conversation on skype lately and I think it is due to the fact that I did not jump on the place to go see him the first chance I get.I thin there is hope here. I may not be able to hold out until April or May but I think I have held out enough to secure some kind of real closeness and deppth to occur between us. He has also been patient and I am loving him more for that. If it was all about sex, by now he will be acting strange towards me. I see him coming towards me like I have always wanted when I let go and give him some space.Thanks all for the advice. Updates will be forthcoming if I carry through with the psychic plan or if i went with my gut.
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reader, JustHelpinAgain  +, writes (1 March 2012):
Annalisa says it all. I can't add more to that. Find a space to talk without feeling stress and mistrust. Good luck.
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reader, JustHelpinAgain +, writes (28 February 2012):
Thanks for the update. Yes, like I said the pyschic is reflecting your own lack of trust in this guy. I don't know how you can be so sure he's not seeing other women and in any case nothing you have said sounds like a guy in love with you. Stopping sex is a clear sign that you don't trust him and his reaction would show you straight away whether he is serious about you. I can't imagine being in love and not phoning every chance I got, and also making plans to be together as soon as possible. Words are cheap and you need to see a bit more loving and caring from him. Good for you for standing up for yourself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2012): Ask yourself seriously do planets really effect my relationships? And also can everyone in the would be put into groups depending on when they were born. If you ask me psychic's put ideas into your head and once that idea is there you will subconsciously strive for it. Don't let astronomers predict you love life just like you wouldnt ask your hair dresser for health advice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2012): This life is about free agency. Choosing for ourselves and living with the outcomes good and bad. There is good even in the bad consequences, mistakes means we gain in wisdom.
We are meant to achieve and even fall.
So relying on another to dictate to you what you should and should not do, believe it or not, can weaken you. To the point you lose confidence in your own ability and will not earn wisdom for yourself.
I say do what you know to be true and stop going to this Psychic.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionJustHelpinnagain:The first real fight we had was when he flew a girl over to his state and got caught cos I read his email and found the ticket. He said he did not do anythign with her. I also investigated the issue and founf out nothing happended. The psychic also confirmed this. However this fight coupled with no contact lasted a month. This was the first time we had a big fight. When he came back to me, he took a late night flight and we had nothing else to do but to have sex so we never resolved the issue. And since then the issue comes out in our little arguments and I have moved on since I know he really did not have sex but I put my foot down to let him know it should not repeat itself.The recent fight we had was back in early January and was due to the fact that he went out of the country and only contacted me once, I tried to reach out to him and got hold of him twice and that was it. I just don't feel like anyone in love will not want to call and check up on their girlfriends from time to time especially overseas. So when he came back and wanted to see me, I just dodged it the whole time because once again he knows once we see each other we will not resolve the issue and we will have sex and forget about everything.Other issues in the past is that I have snooped around and found out he is still talking to other woman. No proof of any physical intimate contact like sex with them but the conversation is somewhat not acceptable. We have since then talked and he has eliminated everyone of them except one which I feel strongly he was with during his last trip overseas.So there you have it. I dont feel like I have his full commitment. He feels like because he has told me from day 1 that he has chosen me as the one to marry I should not have been worried about other woman. So we have different views of commitment here.It was while he was overseas that the psychic told me not to trust him because he will hurt me again that if I can just hold out until April everything will be back to a loving relationship as we started. She did not advic eme not to see or talk to him she just adviced against closeness. My body also feels like this is what we need at this time. The blow out of yesterday came out of no where and I feel its because he sees the changes in me. I would have flown to see him if it was the Me back then. I guess he cant seem to understand why all of a sudden I am finally strong and holding my grounds to be treated the way I deserve to be treated in this relationship.
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reader, JustHelpinAgain +, writes (27 February 2012):
Hmm, Leo's like sex too. I would be happy if a pyschic was controling my sex life. The thing about pyschics is they usually say what they perceive the customer wants to hear. And they are good at that. Sounds like you need time to work out what is right and how your feelings really are. You don't say what you fight over or how you get hurt, but a months silence for a couple in love is a long time. Do you feel you are just being used for sex hence the pyschic advising abstention? How is your relationship? do you enjoy talking endlessly with him? I really don't think the position of the moon is going to make much difference, you need to say what feels right for you.
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reader, Hugh.J  +, writes (27 February 2012):
 Psychics, clairvoyants, charlatons - all are good at eliciting information from you without your realising that you have done it. But, in reality they are full of bullshit and you should not take a scrap of notice of them.
Just mend your relationship and pay no heed to the "no sex" dictum.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYou are right. The relationship does need a lot of work. When we have issues, my man tend to use sex to subdue resolving it and the issues stay lingering on in ones mind without getting resolved.
With that said, I believe you and the psychic to a certain degree. I believe the psychic because she said don't trust him during this times and she is right. We have been cool since we started communicating again, just like she said he invites me over to come see him. Wouldn't he atleast wait a week to see that we are really cool before thinking about getting closer? Then all of a sudden yesterday during a normall skype chat, he blows up at me again. So it shows the nice gesture towards me has been fake all along. Even without the psychic advice, my body is saying NO NO NO because this pattern have got to stop.
You said something avout "preservation of your integrity and really getting mentally intimate with each other will make a couple in love closer, want each other more and the sex will become great!" what can we do about this? I really do not want to give up until we work on things.
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