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writes:My step Father rang for my birthday today.But also accused me of being gay but I am happily married and also that he has strong sexual feelings for me. I said a few words to him and hang up. I am in shock, disbelief I don't believe he said this.confused. Reply to this Question
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (11 January 2016):
 Gross!
No wonder you didn't really know what to do with that! I agree with YouWish, specially if you get along with your mom.
I'd call her and tell her that you had the STRANGEST conversation with insert step-dad's name and that you are actually offended both for yourself but on her behalf too.
She might not want to hear it or believe it, but the truth is the truth. My guess is he will NOT expect you to tell her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2016): My uncle says things sexually when he drinks. He has made lewd suggestions to the woman in my family. I hang up on him when i know he is drunk. Perhaps he had been drinking? If he rings you again, i would made it clear you don't appreciate it and hang up til his senses return
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reader, RubyBirtle  +, writes (11 January 2016):
How old is your step-father? If he's over 65 and this behaviour is totally out of the blue and uncharacteristic for him. I might wander whether he was developing Alzheimers or some other form of dementia.
Yeah, tell you Mum if they're still married. You can make it sound like it's out of concern for him rather than accusatory if that'll make it easier.
And if he's just a dirty old bugger, then she deserves to know that too!
And don't hesitate to tell your step-dad that he's got the wrong end of the stick, it's totally inappropriate and to sod off (if he mentions anything like that again)
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reader, YouWish +, writes (11 January 2016):
 Oh boy. Your stepfather is a dirty old man, and your mom needs to know. I know you're reacting out of shock and revulsion that he did that to you, but keep in mind that not only did he do this to YOU, he did this to YOUR MOM behind your back.
If you have a good relationship with your mom, then you should come first for her. AND - your mom should be your priority in protecting. Even if it had been a stranger and not YOU that he propositioned, he's grossly mistreating your mom right now, and you shouldn't stand for that.
Tell your mom exactly what happened right down to the last detail. She may resist because denial may be the "go-to" reaction at first, but in your dealings with your stepfather, you need to confront him and tell him never to so much as look at your direction with that in mind.
If your mom resists believing you, then confront your stepfather in her presence. Bring up his calling you "gay" and bring up his "strong sexual feelings" wording exactly in front of her. This guy is no good for your mom if he's not only cheating on HER, but harassing her daughter in this fashion. Hit it head on, and hit it really hard.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2016): If he is not normally like this then I think he should get to the doctor asap. He could have had a stroke. If he is always this nasty cut the creep out of your life.
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