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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes: Dear all,thanks for taking time to read my problem. So, there is this guy that I have been friends with for about 4 years. He flirts a lot, talks about girls as though he is some thirteen yr old whose pheromones are just beginning to shoot. I flirted along, clearly knowing that we stand just as friends and nothing more. We don't call each other, no going out, just meeting up for lunch..chat n that's it. Then recently, I sent him a friend request on fb. We r now friends on fb, but the messages he sends are so personal flirtatious that I feel I am beginning to fall for him. Last night I sent him a message, "Hi (let's call him R), sometimes when I think of my friends like I have about you, I share the joy that come with it. Best wishes always". He replied "Just thinking?hmmm....alil bird that happens to be a mutual friend tells me its alot more than that....anyhow, am great, ope you are. Gdnyte". I like him as a friend but he has a history of telling his friends how crazy I am for him. And yet the truth is I feel his ways are just meant to pull my legs, without me actually doing anything. I am single and inexperienced in love/relationships, but he on the other hand is very experienced. He is about my age. My big questions are 1) Does this guy like me or is he just playing around? 2) What can I do, I like him as a friend but I don want to be emotionally drained flirting. Thank you in advance.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (2 April 2012):
If you have been friends for 4 years and nothing has happened I don't think he means anything more by his flirtations then what it is.. Flirtations.
If the flirting gets to be to personal/romantic then ignore it or take him off FB.
Flirting is "harmless" til someone gets their feelings involved in it.
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