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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Ok I was going out with this guy for a around 7 months and i was mad about him at the start but things got a little boring near the end. I wanted to move on and I deciding to break up with him and he was heartbroken as I was his first love. But I didnt want to be trapped in a relationship my heart wasnt in. So I went back to uni and i moved on, i did miss him but in all honesty i missed him more a a friend that a bf. SO I kept txt him for about a month afterwards but it was clear he wasnt moving on we would be talking and he would always say sorry etc and wat did i do. No matter wat I said he kept blamming himself, it made me feel so bad cause i was out enjoying my self while he was sad. After a while it got really annoying and it was pissiong me off. So I got pissed off and txt him telling him he has to get out and get a gf and get over me. which he couldnt do if we were txtin so i wasnt gna txt back anymore until he is over me and we can be friends. ( i know bitchy but i think you have to be cruel to b kind). Any way a couple of months pass and he txt me saying he just wants to be friends geuinly so i thought he was over me. So I start talking to him again by txt and he starts getting all depressed on me asking me what I saw in him and how no other girl will like him as he is ugly and how he never goes out anymore. (At this stage i felt so bad but i wasnt even near the place were he lived, and in all honesty he was annoying me and I already moved on) Then im out with my friends one nite when im home and he is out and just sitting in a chair sulking and being moody, and when i went over to say hi he was really mean to me, so i just left him alone. At this point i was well over him and glad about the break up as i really didnt even wani be his friend anymore. Then like last week he was out and he came over and was sitting with me and all my friends near enough the entire nite and followed me to smoking area just so he could talk to me etc, its kinda annoying now as he constantly txt me and puts little kisses on end off messages and im starting to realise we have nothing in common. I just dont know wat to do I know i being mean as he is going through a depressing time in all ( and its all my fault) but is it all my promblem we aint going out anymore its been like 6 months. I know it will come back to haunt me someday. So can someone give me advice on how to deal with him and advice for the future so I can deal with breakups easier cause i dont wani go through this again?Sorry for the long letter, any advice will help
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2009): Tell him its over, delete hi number from your phone and dont talk to him anymore.
Do both of ye a favour.
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reader, QuirkLady  +, writes (13 August 2009):
 Be firm with him and don't let him guilt you into a relationship. It's not your fault that he hasn't found someone else, so don't even take that on. Keep contact with him to a minimum, don't text him back when he sends the hearts, and if he does anything romantic or sends you any gifts turn him down. It does suck to have to brush someone off, but you have to do what you have to do.
Good luck.
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