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writes:Hello, my boyfriend used to have a problem with alcohol in high school. He would drink all the time. He says he was depressed in high school because his father passed away and he had to transfer to a new school. He doesn't drink nearly as much now, but when he does get drunk, he becomes a completely different person. We've been dating for over a year. He's made me cry on several occasions. He is always so so sorry the next day and he's usually the nicest person in the world. Today, however, was his 21st birthday and he got very very drunk. He was vomiting all over the place and rolled onto his back after. I tried to ask him to roll onto his side and then gently tried to push him. He kept yelling "fuck off, fuck you, I don't fucking care," and finally he punched me in the legs and kicked me into the desk (he was laying down). I don't know if this is a preview of the future or not. Am I overreacting?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2010): Is he really trying to stop drinking, because if he is not, then yes, drinking is here to stay. The fact that he got more drunk now that it is legal suggests this problem is going to grow, not go away. I would say his excuses about drinking because of his dads death are bs. There are good ways to deal with things and bad ways.
He has no right to physically abuse you. He needs to find a workable solution that will keep it from ever happening again. If he really is sorry he will. You should never accept being physically abused. A relationship with a mean drunk is not a fun thing, weigh things. How often does he drink?, what is the future outlook?
Will he stop drinking for you? He started drinking/getting drunk because he lost his dad, will he stop if to not lose you?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2010): No, you are definitly NOT overreacting!!This is a preview of the future. Now he getting very drunk on occasions. . but pretty soon he will start drinking more & more until he officially becomes an alcoholic!
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