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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I suppose I'm just sad and don't know what to do. My problems are two-fold and probably generic so i'll try to keep it short.1. I like this guy. I really like him. He's into all the same stuff as me, friendly, nice, funny and someone i can just be myself around. We talk alot over facebook and we talk at school abit and i know he likes me as a friend but here's the thing. He's nice to me and everything but he's nice to EVERYONE. He's just this friendly, nice guy and so how am i meant to tell if he likes me as anything more than a friend. Sometimes i think i should just tell him but that'd make things super awkward since we havent been speaking for ages or anything. Should i just leave it till we know each other a little better? I don't want to come on too strongly.2. I usually hang out with my four friends at school. Thing is, they're all my best friends but they're pretty rubbish towards me tbh. Let's call them A, F and G.G's not too bad actually. She's nice and i've known her for a really long time. She's just pretty out of the picture as she has a boyfriend atm and so has dissapeared.I'd say F and A are the main problem. You know how things are when you get to 15 (I'm 17 now). Everyone starts having house parties and suddenly it's concidered acceptable to act like a complete whore, get off with lots of guys? Well, that's how it is where i live. Anyway, so we started going to parties but i never really got into it. I'm not keen alcohol and I'm pretty introverted so i never really fitted in. F and A did though. F ended up (after a few of these parties) getting with this horrible boy in our year who's cheated in his last two girlfriends and treats her like crap, bascially but she stays with him because "loves him". Anyway, she's gotten pretty popular along with A (who also has a kinda crappy boyfriend who treats her badly too) and they've gotten really full of themselves. Sometimes, because they live close to each other they just hang out and don't bother inviting me which really hurts my feelings. They're not even subtle about it. They "frape" each other and just make it obvious that they're hanging out without me. Me and A are pretty close but it's become pretty clear she cares more about being popular at school than hanging out with as she frequently cancels plans with me to go to parties. It's pretty upsetting really. Sorry to give my life story but i'm not sure what to do. I mean, obviously i need to get better friends but where am i meant to get them from? I just feel really left out and i feel like they're so full of themselves that if i told them i felt like this they'd actually find it amusing.:/Thanks for any help given. I'm just pretty unahppy right now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2011): Well to answer the first question; if he really liked you he would tell you. You can tell him and see if it goes somewhere and if it goes great just be prepared for if it doesn't. I don't see the shame in telling him now. If you lessen the blow a little by suggesting you guys to to the movies or something instead of a full steam ahead relationship that might help too. As for the second answer, I hate to tell ya but I'm 22 and have the same issue. I got a job out of high school and then decided to go to college. I'm now a 22 year old college freshman which doesn't seem bad but everyone in the classes are 18. The age gap is pretty big when it comes to who wants to hang out after class. It's really frustrating. I can completely understand. I would pretty much just write F and A off. They seem like they will end up pregnant soon and then your list of similarities will really plummet. New people funnel in and out of your life all the time. I was pretty popular in high school and now since I moved away from my hometown I talk to maybe 3 people I knew in high school. The rest have all just kind of faded away. I know your down right now just try to focus on the future or getting in with a new crowd. Maybe where you want to live or what you want to do after school ends. I know some colleges have classes you can take that are for focused on hobbies and during the summer? Maybe some of those will have potential friends? :)
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