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writes:My gf and I have been sexually active for about 2 years now, but lately she seems so bored of with sex. I mean she seems to have enough. I gave her long breaks from time to time and no im not trying to force it on her. Its just that when ever we do it she doesnt seem like to likes it. I try everything from fingering to intercourse. i can't bring her to orgasm before i cum. i guess what im trying to say is that i think she is getting bored of the sex because im no good at it. i have Pre-mature ejaculation and i cant help it for some reason. I tried hard but i cant get over it. Who can help me? What can help me? Yes, i know im young but please, i wish to receive advice thank you
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2013): My husband has never made me finish without the use of toys. Some women just don't finish without a vibrator (myself included).
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reader, person12345 +, writes (4 January 2013):
 Do you ejaculate within seconds of entering? If not, you probably don't have PE. For a lot of couples when the woman can't finish, blame immediately goes to the man not lasting long enough, when in the vast majority of cases you could last an hour and she still wouldn't orgasm that way. Most women just don't or can't.
You need to focus on fingering and oral sex. Fingering should be external too. Ask her what she wants/to give you direction. All women are different, there is no one technique that will get all or even most women off. If she can't give you direction/doesn't know, she should masturbate to figure it out.
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reader, Euphoric29  +, writes (4 January 2013):
Dear OP,
Well, there are many online resources that have tips for curing premature ejaculation, for instance this one:
http://www.askmen.com/dating/dzimmer/14_love_answers.html
So I think in time you will find a method that works for you. Many men deal with that problem for some time in their life (well, I'm a woman but I know :)). I had lectures about sexual disorders at Uni and we also learned about premature ejaculation. The advice was similar to the start-stop method on the website. Also, they suggested good communication with the partner and that you train together with your girlfriend.
About you and your girlfriend.. if I was you I'd try to talk to her about this. Ask her if she doesn't want to have sex with you because of the premature ejaculation or if it is because of something else.
Since most women don't necessarily need penetration to orgasm, well, maybe you can find other ways to please her if you come too early. Some women need a very long time to come, but you should try to take that time: A lot of foreplay, fingering, oral. Maybe she can show you or tell you what she likes.
It happens a lot of the times that people start having sex in a way that's not completely satisfactory, but when time passes they are very afraid to tell their partner that they are actually not enjoying it so much. So, again: Communication is the key here.
Hope that helped a bit.
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