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writes: Hi, I'm looking for some advice- hope someone can help. I am not in a serious realationship but I (23) have been sleeping with my a boss (35) from work for roughly 3 years. I have just discovered that I am pregnant and have decided that it would be for the best to have a termination. I tell my boss? He is not a great lover of children and I am also worried it may affect our working relationship. He has also made it clear that he does not want a serious relationship and is happy the way we are and that he's not interested in anyone else- we get on really well but I think I have always wanted more, so I also want to know if it is time for me to move on.Looking forward to hearing from someone Thanks in advance x
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2006): You are facing a lot here. Up till now it seems that this man has had the upper hand and the control. He is your boss in a working environment and I he is well aware of that. You should definitely tell him and you will get a measure of his character very quickly.To be honest he has not lead you on and has been honest with you about where he is at...at least with you. At the very least he should be there for you financially but the best indicator of future behaviour is past behaviour. Here in Canada there are many agencies are around just to help people who are in your shoes as I am thinking you may need to make your decision quite soon. I would think that his reaction when you tell him may help you with your decision. You are trying to sort out whether or not to continue a relationship and what to do about your pregnancy which is major. You need the support of friends and loved ones around you. You need a bit of a soft place to fall. I hope things go ok for you my dear and good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2006): Having an abortion is not a unilateral decison that only you can make, hun. Of course, you tell him..he is the father and he has to know. It matters not that he doesn't want a serious relationship. Many guys don't want a committed relationship when they can have what they want from a willing woman, who doesn't demand much. Well, hun...you better start demanding and make him step up to the plate. He made a child with you and he needs to know. Whatever you decide to do, about this pregnancy...I hope this man has the balls to emotionally support you and get you through all this. No matter if you abort this baby or carry it to term, to give up for adoption or raise on your own...believe me..this is a life-altering experience and you will need him to help you. If you can't get his support, I hope you have a Mother or a trusted family member you can get that support from. As a Mother myself, I would want to know if my daughter, the love of my heart, was pregnant and considering an abortion. It would be a heartbreaking decision, but I would want to hold her and we could cry together. In my opinion, if you were my daughter, my heart’s love, I would want to know. It would be hard but we would cry together. Whatever you do...do not go through this alone. Keep me updated and let me know how things go for you. You are facing some very important, serious life issues, here. Good luck and my heart goes out to you.
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