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writes:Pregnant with 2nd baby - baby 1 will be 1.5 yrs old when this baby comes out and this 2nd baby was unplanned - pill failed and condom broke. My bf currently can't find work in my country. He now thinks he should go back to the US and work in a previous job where he and his ex-wife worked. The money is good in this old job and I am trying to see it for what it really is. I am working and have a good perm job. I have my 1st baby girl on my health insurance so she is covered too. He currently has no work here but if he goes back to his old job in the states has reassured me that his shifts will be different to hers. They are divorced. He thinks the best option is for him to send money across and us to live apart though he has given the option for me to live in US with him. He lives with his mother. I don't want to quit my work here cos of my 1st child and I don't want to uproot her when she is currently depending on my wages. I would still like to hold onto my relationship with him for obvious reasons. Because he hasn't found work yet here its causing a strain on our relationship. He hasn't cost me any money yet and doesn't want to put me in that position which is fair. Without a job offer letter he can not work here legally or reside here as he needs that letter in order to help him get a work permit. I feel he has nearly given up altogether. I feel v uncomfy with him working around his ex-wife even if they are over each other - I don't know why its causing me a bit of insecurity but I guess its cos he will be in another country and who am I to know if he does anything wrong - I doubt it anyway but its head wrecking.... I understand if he can't get anything here it would totally make sense for him to go back to a job he can prob still acquire which has good money. I am worried that he will miss the best part of this pregnancy - miss out on scans etc just from being apart from each other too. Anyone have any ideas on how this can be fixed??
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reader, thomas1214  +, writes (29 March 2011):
...... uh she is his ex wife for a reason.. just saying
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