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writes:My sisters pregnant and going to have her second abortion in two years, im furious with her and dont want to have anything to do with her, its only because her boyfriend dont like kids. Its their fault and i think they should grow up and start acting like adults, i told her theres other options like adoption but she wouldnt listen so i told her i didnt want nothing to do with her ever again if she aborts another baby. Im against abortion exept for some cases thats understandable, but not when u have no excuse of why you cant keep your child. Im 18 and and am already an aunty my broz had kidz so its not me being selfish so dont get me wrong. What do you think about it? Any advice would be great
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reader, tux  +, writes (8 February 2009):
 Abortion does not equal Birth Control. I'm not going to get preachy about abortion. Even if you are on the pro-abortion side of things. What your sister is doing is wrong. She is using abortion as a contraceptive.
I think bitterblue is a little off on her judgement. Yes you don't have a right to force your sister to do anything, but you do have a right to have nothing to do with her if she continues on her path. And yes they can be blamed for being irresponsible for getting pregnant, whether or not their "protection" failed. Pregnancy is always a risk no matter how much you protect yourself against it. It's a risk that is involved. If you are really to take the risk, either reduce the chances further or stop entering into that risk. With great sex, comes great responsibility.. Heck even with bad sex, comes great responsibility.
Personally if I were you, approach your sister with your feelings in a non-threatening but caring manner and tell her what you feel. Tell her that you cannot be by her if she continues acting irresponsibly for her actions. If her boyfriend does not want kids, they should stop having sex. I'm sure he doesn't mind that part.. or like mentioned, get fixed(risk reduction) But some people don't react to a "Oh that's ok.. i'm not ok with it.. but I'm going to continue to love you" mentality. There has to be consequences for change. Of course, your sister can act how she wants to act, but you don't have to be there for her if she continues down that road.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2009): Upset about it as you are, you have no right at all to interfere with your sister's choice. Disagree with it or not, it is not your call. You can go to her with suggestions at the most, but cannot force her to make a decision to keep the child. This is a problem that is best discussed between the two partners. You cannot blame them for being irresponsible either, protection may have failed. It is not correct for the child either to be born unwanted by both partners. As for the adoption, some women dislike this option. If you can't be supportive then it is probably wise to avoid your sister at this time. Even if she chooses to abort, this is never an easy choice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2009): Abortion through my eyes is wrong!!!! It should NOT be used as a form of birth control... but there are many different opinions on that, Im sure you will hear a ton of them! As far as your sister... I think that she needs to grow up and take on responsibility for her actions! If her boyfriend doesnt like kids then maybe he should get fixed or they shouldnt have sex!!! We all know that having sex can lead to pregnancy, so why dont they prevent it permanently, since he doesnt like kids!? Duh!!!! Isnt that smarter, cheaper and plus you arent known as the girl that has had numerous abortions! Maybe she should read an article on what exactly happens during an abortion, its pretty nasty and graphic, and if she has a heart, that just might change her mind about having an abortion! who knows! Good luck!!!!
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