Pregnant and the guy has now turned his phone off!

A female age 30-35, anonymous writes:

Dearcupids! I really dont know what to do, im almost 19 and i have been single for just under 2 years, my first love broke me in more ways that one and ive not really looked for a guy since. But theres been this one guy, we've never been a couple, or even dated, but a fair few months back he told me he liked me, i thought he was pretty fit and seemed a nice guy and we got chatting. Everytime we saw each other, he kissed me and touched me, he took it too far one day and tried to get into my knickers, i warned him off and told him he was a decent guy but i wasnt ready for a sexual relationship yet, i thought he was okay with it, he had tried getting me into bed for a good month and i said no, and said no, and said no! Refused to see him, i didnt want sex, but eventually one night (early december) we got drunk at a house party and i ended up having sex with him, he text me the day after basicly asking if i fancied round 2, i replied with no. Simple. He badgered me for days, and i gave in, till eventually we were sleeping together every day.. I knew id get hurt. I backed off, sex wasnt even that good and i realised this guy was a plank! We've not seen each other for nearly a fortnight now, exept.. On monday i found out i was almost 6 weeks pregnant. I was devestated! Ill be honest, im tryin to do well, im working but earning a poxy £400 a week! And a baby is the last thing i need right now! But its my responsibility i know, and i got myself in this mess! Even though we were always careful! I text him on tuesday saying 'hey ****** can we meet for a coffee and a chat? xx' got no reply.... I sent him one on wednesday saying 'you avoiding me? Can we meet up soon, need to speak to you?x' got no reply... Then this morning i got a text saying 'hey sexi, fancy meetin up in about an hour? Could do with some action before work! ;) xxx' i replied with 'action is the last thing on my mind! I need to speak to you!' hes not replied to that either. Ive kinda lost my rag with him. I just sent him a text saying 'look, i understand, you've made it obvious from the start sex was all you wanted, nome of the cock and bull about you wanting me was ever real! I know! But unfortunately i fell for it, now im pregnant! So when you stop been so fuckin pig ignorant and have the decency to speak to me, we need to talk! Thanks!'. Now hes turned his phone off! I know ive probably overreacted! But what else could i do? I dont even know which is his house, hes not speaking to me! I cant get my head round any of it! Well i dont really know what to do! Obviously im on my own with a baby now... But is there like anything i can do? Like legally or.... Please can anyone offer me any advice? Was i out of order? I feel so guilty! Am i better off without him in our lives?! What do i tell my baby when it asks for daddy?!!x

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