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writes:Hey, I just found out the other day that I am pregnant but I had sex with 2 guys around the time my doctor said I got pregnant. I was having sex with my boyfriend at the time but I was with another friend and we just got carried away. I don't live near one of the guys because he was just here for a few days but he lives hrs away but what do I say to my boyfriend if I ask for a blood sample. I am really close friends and have been for years with both of these guys and I don't wat to lose their friendship over this because they helped me get though a lot since I was really little. Reply to this Question
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (21 February 2011):
 Wow, I honestly hope it works out for you. Pretty proud of you for being honest too! Best of luck to you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionUPDATE:Hi everyone. I asked my friend (not my boyfriend) to come to my house and the 3 of us could talk about this. So we told my boyfriend he was upset but we are working it out. So we did the DNA sample and my boyfriend was the father. I am still dating my boyfriend but we are taking it slow and digesting the past few weeks and I am still friends with the other guy.ANWSERS TO QUESTIONS:tennisstar88:Yes, my parents do know. I moved out a few months ago after I graduated to be closer to my college and live with my boyfriend because he lives at a college a few miles away. I am going to keep the baby because I was adopted and I personally feel I wish she had a abortion because I hate not knowing if she had more kids, got married, where she is now. So I will finish this semester of school and have to stay home. ***Thanks for your anwsers***
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2011): Just ask each of them if they'd be kind enough to give a DNA sample so that you can establish paternity. Simple!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2011): I am not sure if either of the two men will approve of your conduct even if both of them acted irresponsively and made love without the use of a condom. Now this is not easy here to reveal to him you are unsure as to whom is the real dad. I do feel he has a right to know and he may be very upset when he finds out he is not the only one. But like the answer below I must say, you should tell the truth .x x.Simon
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (13 February 2011):
There's no nonchalant way, or lie you can feed your boyfriend to ask for a DNA sample. I'm sure he's not an idiot and will be wondering why the hell you're asking for his blood/spit. As far as DNA testing goes your boyfriend has to go to a lab to get the work done. It's also going to cost you a chunk of change.
Have you even told your parents you're pregnant? Are you going to keep the baby, put it up for adoption, or perhaps abortion? Figure out that part first before you going asking for these young men to submit to DNA test.
I suppose you could ask for your friend to submit to DNA testing because you're unsure of who the father is. If he tests negative then you know it's your boyfriend's. However, what are you going to do if it's your friend's? Then secret will be out.
So you were irresponsible in sleeping with two guys and not using protection. Now you face the consequences. It's time to get responsible, put your big girl pants on, and tell the truth.
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