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writes:I have a daughter and her father passed away a few years ago so I have been raising her on my own. I just found out I'm 5 weeks pregnant with a guy I have been seeing for a few months. I am so confused on what to do. Part of me feels I need to tell him and let us make the decision together and part of me thinks I need to just do what is best for me. I never thought I could get an abortion but at the same time, I do not want to raise another child on my own. On the other hand, I don't want him to stay with me only because of the baby. I have not told him and I don't know how.... He is out of town for a week and I know I cannot tell him over the phone... Someone Help Me...
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2008): I wanted to follow up and thank you all for your comments.... i told the dad - he has been amazing... Now I'm faced with the issue that I don't think I can go through with an abortion. The thought of it breaks my heart, I don't know if I do it if I'd ever recover. He has said he would support my decision no matter what but if I keep the baby, i know i may be alone one day as there are no guarantees for "our" future... I'm just so scared and so torn - any advice???? I only have a couple weeks to make this decision and to be honest, if I wait much longer, I think it will be made for me... PLEASE HELP....
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2008): well. i'm 14 and i was pregnant at 13. i went to have an abortion but i just couldn't have it. the baby you are pregnant with could be a fresh start for you and your daughter. having a baby sister for your daughter could give her something to get close to other than parents. my sister and i share secrets. my sister was the first one to knoe. i would tell the MAN you are with first. it is half him so it should be a half decision.
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (21 November 2008):
 Hi there,
I think it's important that you tell him what's going on. While I think you do have to do what's right for you, I also think it's unfair to not involve the father. After all, it is both of yours child, so he should get to voice his opinion. He would be really hurt if you went ahead and made a decision without talking to you.
But, if you find that an abortion is the best choice for you, don't feel any shame in doing what you need to do. If you decide to have the baby, or put it up for adoption, that is a strong and great choice to make. Remember that it is up to YOU ultimately... and your partner.
Good luck, my dear.
xx
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