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writes:How do I tell my parents that I am pregnant AGAIN!!..Im only 21 and I have a 18mth old son..I just found out that I am 6 weeks preggo...My oarents helped me so much with the first one and still help me a little..I live with my sister but my parents gave me a car and they help me with my son alot...I know that they are going to be really mad..Iv been thinking of a way to tell them but IDK..If I cant find away to tell them then ill have to get an abortion..I really dont wanna do that but the thought of telling them makes me feel like i cant breath.,..what do I do??????
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2010): yes you are a grown women okay and yes i would want to tell my parents too but please don't have a abortion you will regret it okay your parents will come around eventually they may not help as much as the first time but they should come around to thee news eventually ..
just tell them as soon as possible
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reader, followtheblackrabbit  +, writes (11 November 2010):
 You're young, you have a child whose still a baby and all over the world, people are finding it harder than ever to support children in a falling economy. Is your son's father doing his share to help? Have you told your partner you are pregnant? Now, just tell your parents, the sooner the better. They will be angry/dissapointed but you are their daughter and they love you. I don't really if they'll help you as much this time around. If you're not for abortion, you can have the child and bless a loving couple through adoption. You can even do an open adoption where you can still see your baby grow up and know him. It's a tough situation and decision, but you'll find the strength within you to do what feels right to YOU. Only you. Please, whatever your decision, make sure you quickly get on birth control. There are some which last for years. The birth control shot works but, the "side effects" can be dangerous. Talk to your doctor about this or visit your local planned parenthood. I wish you all the best.
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reader, fisch777 +, writes (11 November 2010):
You really really really shouldn't have an abortion just because your scared to tell your parents. You will regret it later. It sounds to me like you need to put your "pants on" and just tell them. Of course they are going to be mad. That's only normal in a case like this. But you need to just sit down and talk to them like adults. Afterwards I would start taking extra measures to having safe sex if at all any. Use birth control, condoms, and just educate yourself better on sex. Again I really think you will regret having an abortion.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2010): What do you do? You tell them, that's what you do. Hey, welcome to life. Sometimes you have to do things you don't want to do.
They probably won't be mad, maybe disappointed, but mad? Try to put yourself into their position and hear your story from their end... empathy is a good approach to most situations. It's hard to imagine anger from parents who have helped you so much thus far. Disappointed, annoyed... these are initial reactions you could expect, but honestly? If they like your first child and they like being grandparents, they're certainly not going to disown you or anything like that.
That said, abortion is a pretty radical form of birth control. If it's something you can stomach, I suppose it is your choice... but to me, it's a pretty brutal way to fix a mistake YOU made. Your baby didn't ask to get made, after all. And if your baby had a choice to live or die, which do you think they'd pick? You'd really not let a child live because you fear telling your parents?
We're talking about the spark of life here, and you're worried about the inconvenience?
I'd encourage you to keep your baby, perhaps consider adoption. But PLEASE look into birth control the next time around. Seriously.
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reader, r_a_w_r1645 +, writes (11 November 2010):
 your 21. it doesnt matter if their mad. your lucky your not under 18 otherwise you should care if they were. your an adult and dont need their opinion on how they feel about you being pregnant again. just say it like its a good thing. be like "im pregnant!!!" or send them a card that say a little one is on the way again. i just beg you not to get an abortion. because i mean, you not wanting a living thing and having someone kill it for you is like me killing someone in this world because i dont want them!
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (11 November 2010):
 Are you not on a form of birth control? Perhaps you should practice abstinence..
Yeah I'd say they're going to be pretty steamed, since they have helped you out with your first child and now you're pregnant again. Where is the father of these children, why is he not helping?
The choice is yours, if you feel that one is enough and you can't handle a second child or want to abuse your parents help anymore then an abortion or adoption is in your best interest. Or just blurt out at dinner that you're pregnant again. Also, be ready for them not to support you this time.
Strongly recommend you get yourself on a form of birth control asap if you can't refrain from having sex and that your partner wears protection at all times. This will greatly reduce your chances of an unplanned pregnancy. Please educate yourself on safe sex!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2010): You are a grown woman. It is your life, you don't have to do anything you don't want to do. So if you don't want to get an abortion, then don't. Your parents may be upset, but pregnancy is not the worst thing that can happen. I suggest you have the baby then get fixed so this doesn't happen again. It is not the babies fault, so please don't abort it. Give it a chance to live. Hope this helps. =]
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