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writes:Need helpful advice from anyone. Feeling very lost, I'm 24 and six months pregnant. I didn't want to pregnant, and I feel awkward when anyone talks to me about it. My boyfriend of five years is very happy about the whole thing, but he doesn't seem to understand how I feel. I was going to get an abortion but didn't end up doing it, I guess people talked me out of it. I feel very ashamed and I don't want anyone at school to know about it ( I am a senior in college) Pretty much all my family and friends are happy for me. but I just feel so lost and alone.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (29 February 2012):
 I would honestly have a talk with your BF. And if you feel depressed you need to talk to your doctor too and consider a therapist.
I don't think there is anything to be ashamed off though. The only reason you and I are here (along with the rest of the worlds population) is because someone made love and we are the result.
It's not totally unnatural for a woman to get "cold feet" or not be happy about it, however you need to realize that this is something you can not UNDO at 6 months. You are in it til the baby is born. Now if you can not see yourself as a mother, you will have to talk to your BF about that too and find some kind of compromise.
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reader, Dear Mandy  +, writes (29 February 2012):
 HI
Your not alone hun, so many women feel exactly how your feeling right now. All your plans have had to change because of an unwanted pregnancy, its a scarey road for you right now. But it will get better :/ your bound to be anxious, your going to be a new mother to a wonderful child. And I promise when that little baby is in your arms you are going to fall completely inlove with it. Being pressured into keeping a child is wrong , so its even harder for you to come to terms with, especially as everyone is so happy about it except you right now. But make no mistake, having an abortion is harder than what some may think, living the rest of your life with that guilt ( for some ) can be very traumatic. Your 24 and nothing to be ashamed about, But giving that your feeling this low about it I think you should talk to someone proffessional about your concerns. Also check this site out, it may help with how your feeling.
http://www.americanpregnancy.org/pregnancyhealth/depressionduringpregnancy.html
Your not alone, and speaking with a proffessional would be the wiser thing right now.
Mandy x
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 February 2012): You're 24. Not a child. Its the perfect time to have your first child. You can wait however long you want for more, but it's nice to get the first out of the way early. Time to get happy - you're going to have a little you!
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