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writes:I have this friend, he's great, very likeable, down to earth, always helpful, compassionate and kind. Sometime he views life through rose-tinted glasses but thats a minor quibble and a good problem to have. He was struggling to pay the bills so I got him a job with me, he seemed very grateful. But we've been working together for four months, and I sense the friendship has changed a lot. I find he's very critical of me, questions everything I say (sometimes fairly, often not). And every now and then an irrational, bitter strain comes through and he attacks me. I can't understand it because its totally out of character, he's my go-to guy for advise but increasingly I find he he is irritable with me (maybe I asked too much, or he finds me to reliant?). Either way, I have a strong sense that he's freezing me out a little. For instance he never calls me any more (maybe because we work together, he doesn't feel the need to socialise out of work hours?). But yeah there is definitely some beef there. I also find him possessive with his house-mates (who he introduced me to). To the point, I think twice about calling his house mate in case I'm intruding on his space. What shall I do in this situation?
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reader, Myrrh +, writes (28 June 2010):
 Hello. Maybe you should have a word and ask whats up. It might be something to do with work. Or it could be his housemate that you contact. Maybe he doesnt like that. Or another possibility is that as you work with him now and see him on a more regular basis, you are REALLY getting to know him and hes not the guy you took him to be. But for what its worth, id suggest you ask if somethings wrong. If a misunderstanding has occured, you cant put it right if he doesnt talk to you about it. So ask x
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