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writes: Hi, i have been married for nearly 3 years (and have been married before). The thing is, it firstly stated out with my hubby hiding porn from me which made me feel useless, he borrowed my mobile for a bit then i gave it to my dad only to be bombarded with dirty texts from a dating site. a few months passed and we stayed at my mums for a while and i found out he had ordered a subscription to the fantacy channel on my mums tv! It blew over despite me being embarassed, now i have found more porn and a site he's been using for meeting people for sex. Although he's never gone out and cheated (at least not that i know of). Anyway whilst he's been doing this ive been taling to my ex and we are going to meet for a chat to catch up, he knows my hubby but they don't speak.I need some advice on what to do, should i leave my marriage? My current marriage sex aint so good but my old marriage sex was fab. I'm not happy and have been diagnosed with slight depression, please help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 July 2006): He has a serious problem. He is addicted to porn. His life will continue to downward spiral and porn will be his only obsession and his life will face sure ruin.
He needs professional help.
Since you have been diagnosed with depression I hope you have medical help. Making a life altering decision in the theroes of depression will make matters worse.
How long have you suffered depression? Have you sought counselling for yourself?
Have you told your husband that his addiction is killing your trust in him (or is it completely gone?), your desire for him (again, gone?), your happiness? Have you told him that your marriage is now dangerously at ending? Have you told him he needs help?
If you can not see a future with your husband and see only future unhappiness, ending your marriage sounds like a reasonable outcome in this case.
Do you still love your husband? Do you still trust him? Do you see yourself getting past all of this and getting back the man you loved and married?
I would put off talking to the ex and turn to a counsellor. It is apparent you need someone to talk to and you need guidance. Trust in a counsellor.
Get some professional help- I don't say this as a slight against you and I never understood why people still think it is wrong and bad to see one; Psycotherapists are caring people who are there to help you in time of need and they want to help you sort out things out. They can teach you how to own a good self perspective and life perspective.
I hope you can be strong and that you come to know that you deserve happiness with a loving and reliable man.
*hugs*
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