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writes:dear cupid, Do you believe in soulmates? Does anyone believe they actually exist! I am having a down moment in life at the moment and i need to hear some stories about people finding their soulmates! how did you find them? can you break up with a soulmate only to find them again later!do you seek them out or do they just appear at the right moment! or are soulmates myths!? i know this isnt really a problem but i need a ray of hope in a sea of darkness hpe you dont mind thanks a bunch love *emzy*
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 December 2007): Soul-mates definately exist...I do not believe everyone finds their's, however...Too many people "settle", get a life they are used to, a routine, and life just passes. I think maturity in knowing who you are, where you've been and what you want out of life plays into finding YOUR BEST FRIEND...to me your soul-mate is your best friend. Together, yes I said together, you laugh, cry, appreciate, love, celebrate and support and respect each other...someone once told me if I wanted "unconditional love", to buy a dog. Well, that is what a soul-mate is all about. Ironically, you are very young and have not yet even discovered who YOU are. I am over 40 and only have one word of advise - find a guy that worships the ground you walk on...and worship his back...
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 October 2007): I do believe in soulmates and I have met mine. It was a short love affair but I would not change it for the world. Just knowing that I shared time with him makes me light up. I will always love him and he will always love me but we are fated not to be together.
Life moves on but the memory of him will always bring a smile to my face when I need it.
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reader, DIE-romantic. +, writes (25 September 2007):
 Yes, soulmates do exist, its just hard finding them as the world is so big and full of people. :) but dont go out looking for them, they will come along your path sooner or later in life, and when you do find them, you easily you will know. There are many people we see day in and day out, but there is only one that makes your heart jump and your legs feel like jelly. Thats how I knew.
You can lose them, but you will be re-joined with them, after all they are your soulMATES. Or sadly in some situations you cannot be with your soulmate at all, even if you do find them, maybe because the circumstances are really awkward, he may already be with somebody or he may be too old for you and its too difficult to get round. But somewhere, someday you will be with them.
Your heart will tell you, like my heart told me but sadly I am in one of those situations where I cant be with mine. You will feel an instant connection spiritually and feel like you've known them a lifetime, maybe thats because you have in a past lifetime. You will feel like they are the only one you can completely trust, and you will smile at the very thought of them, they always brighten up your day and make you feel so happy. They are the only one that can make you laugh the way you do. You can look into their eyes and know what they are thinking or how they feel without them using words.
I know thats how I feel.
Good luck and take care, keep your chin up. :) xxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2007): soulmates are real. you will find or have found yours but you can not look for them they will just be there. this does not mean you will have them or may lose them but they are there. you sure can lose them only to find them again because as soulmates you are meant for one another. do not look but they are they are there and you will know it. please do not lose hope. you can not find by looking with your eyes only your heart can see who they they really are. do not give up love rules.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2007): Yes and no. Like I actually think you can have several soulmates. Not just one. Cause remember that life is in constant change. It's not stagnant you know? Everybody is always going through a process of evolution and changing from one day to another. A person that seems perfect for you 5 years ago may not be perfect for you 5 years later. But someone else may be perfect then.
You could probably stay with the same person forever but it would take a lot of sacrifice on both your parts. But that's cool too. But it is not going to be easy. And not everybody is willing to make that sacrifice. And even those who are willing to do it are probably sacrificing a large part of themselves and who they are as individuals to conform to this unity. That's hard work. It is like trying to lead a group of 50 people on an excursion. It's hard. They are all yapping away and getting lost. And sometimes you are doing the work all alone. It can be exasperating. But people in long term relationships work it out somehow not because their relationship is perfect. By no means! But because they are willing to put in the effort that it takes to work it out.
HOWEVER, I do think it is possible to be passionately in love with somebody forever. And I don't believe that it is ever going to be your husband unless you keep things VERY exciting. A lot of people take this to mean sex. It doesn't. I mean it does and it doesn't. Just because you mastered the art of a perfect blow job does not mean that you are going to have him hooked forever. When I say keep things exciting I mean always have him on his toes as when you were both still dating. But often this is hard to do in a marriage because of the routine of it all. The only person you can truly keep on his toes is someone that you are only dating that you had a brief passionate affair with. The distance and the fact that he wants you but he cannot have you will always make him want you till the end. The mystery creates excitement, passion and undying love forever. I think that is a true soulmate. The problem is most women don't want this. They want routine and commitment. On the contrary, though, men are programmed to want this.
If I had a soulmate I would probably want it to be someone who lives in a different country who I had a torrid love affair with. But I would know that no matter who we were dating, or where we were, or how much time has passed (20 years even), we always crossed paths again whether intentionally or not. And when we did, we would drop everything and anything to be together. That is who I would want my soulmate to be. You know everyone has different experiences and different perceptions of love. I am adventurous and hopelessly romantic. And yes I have had this type of affair with guys before. And I love it. For me it has always been better than any relationship. The love and the passion is uncomparable. :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2007): i believe in soulmates thats how i found mine!! i was really down at the time had just come out of a relationship so i wasnt really looking for love and had lot of things going on in my life so i didnt have time to look for love! and then one day i bumped into this man by accident and it was raining so we didnt realyl say alot and then i headed for the coffee shop where i saw him again! i didnt really think anything of it but we started talking and exchanged numbers and within four days we were going out and head over heels in love and this was five years ago now and we're happily married with out second child on the way!i think when your not looking for love it will find you definatly did in my case and ive never been happier!!never give up on your dreams of love! its a beautiful thing once you found it or its found you! keep your chin up and hope for the best x
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