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writes: Dear Mr./Mrs./Master/Ms.I have recieved info on whether I should ask a girl out or not and now I need to know how. And when I say go out I don't mean it literally. I mean to become b/f and g/f. OK? Anyway, we don't go to the same secondary school so it is hard, but we went to the same primary school, go to the same Jujitsu session every week, and as my best friend is her brother, we see each other almost every other week.I want to know how to approach her and tell her I like her. I am 13 and think she likes me back but I'm embarrassed and scared of what to say and what she might say. I need help!!! Please give me advice and tell me EXACTLY what to do!!!
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (11 April 2005):
 Hi,First of all, don't worry. This girl is just a girl. Probably a really nice one, and probably pretty attractive, but she's not Miss Universe crossed with a dragon, so she's not going to laugh at you or bite your head off! ;o) If she's approximately your age, there's just a very good chance that she'll giggle, blush charmingly and be really flattered that you're attracted to her. That's good, right?It's going to be really hard to become boyfriend and girlfriend with her without getting to know her better - until you do, you're still sort of strangers - so why not consider asking her out? It needn't be a big, splashy, expensive date. You just want to spend some time with her, so ask if she'd like to go for a walk around the lake with you, or to study together at the library, or ice skate at the mall.To wit:YOU: "Hi Kaitlen! How've you been? I haven't seen you since jujitsu on Tuesday... I was wondering if you're free on Saturday morning? I usually take my dad's dogs out for a walk around the lake and it's really beautiful out there right now. I was hoping you'd like to go with me..."HER: "Um, thanks, but I have to go shopping in the morning on Saturday. I could do it on Sunday, though..."Or: "Hi Gemma! How are you coping with algebra this year? I'm doing OK with it, but I really have to work to keep up. I was going over to the library tomorrow to study where it's quiet. Would you like to study with me?"Whatever. The words aren't that important. What is important is that you don't have to say "Hi. I'm Richard and I like you." Your actions say that for you, making the words redundant. So put the question: "Do you like me?" out of your mind. You don't need it. Just make your plans sound fun. Invite her along to something that you plan to do. Smile and look her in the eye when you ask her and she'll *want* to spend some time with you. You'll see!It's not that hard. Just remember that she's as scared and confused as you are.Good luck and have fun.
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