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writes:I am feeling really confused whether to carry on or end my relationship of 2 years.I love my girlfriend and she says she loves me but she has severe mood swings and she has sent me home from her house twice simply over minor issues.She then waits aweek and phones to apologise and i go back to her. Again today she sent me home simply because I am not sympathetic when she has moods.She doesnt treat me with respect as she likes to be in charge and has had many bad relationships in the past.All previous boyfriends were horrible to her and messed her about,I am a really nice guy, treat her well and do love herbut this is now at the stage of constant stress over real stupid issues.She asked to move in with her as she does not want to sell up and buy a place together but I am not sure anymore.Please Ladies or anyone tell me does she have mental disorders or Insecurity? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2008): How old is she? Menopause could be part of the reason (45-55 age area).
How long has she been single before you, did she get over her last realtionship or is she still dealing with it.
For her saying you need to be more supportive, explain to her you need to know more to understand what she is going through (women seem to think men can read minds; know what they want or are thinking).
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2008): I suffer with depression and anxiety and my partner (20 year relationship) left me because of it. He felt lonely and rejected because I was always pushing him away. Sometimes when in pain, I kept thinking that somehow I would contaminate him with the way I was feeling. It's not that I didn't want to be close, it's just that I thought that he would somehow catch something from me.
Then at other times I would start screaming at him because he couldn't help me. It didn't seem as if was interested. I kept telling him he wasn't giving me any support, even though he was keeping a roof over our heads (I lost my job) keeping the house clean, doing all the shopping, cooking. Keeping me clean, keeping all my friends away from me (I was too frightened to speak to anyone)
Then at other times I would become so clingy. I'd follow him all over the house. I'd need him to hold me, kiss me and constantly tell me how much he loved me. I'd spend days crying and crying. I couldn't bear to leave the house, I wanted him with me 24/7.
Of course it couldn't last. He left and is now with a new partner. I started taking tablets and am feeling a lot more in control and starting to get better. My new partner has experience dealing with my condition on both a personal and professional level and is very good with me.
I can't tell you to stay or to leave this girl. I'm just telling you my story in the hope that it will help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2008): Does she get depressed, because i know how depression can mess with your head.Please dont move in with her until you are 100% certain and right now, you are not. What kind of times has she had in the past with previous guys? This could all be the key to why she acts the way that she does. Try and talk to her the next time she is sending you home. Remember if you move in with her and she want to send you out, then you could be out on the street, dont move. But there is only so much a person can take and you sound quite tolerant, but surely you do deserve better and one day you will wake up and realise that life is too short and you want to be happy. Dont throw your life away.
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