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writes:OP's own title:Hi everyone i'm new here and i have a problem that is occupying my mind all day .. so i go out with a guy who i like he started to tell me that he loves me and all and that he likes me since the first day he saw me in college we are now together for 3 months , w'eve seeing each other for a month and a half in college and then he had to go to his home town because he is not from here ana now we are a month and a half appart we used to talk everyday , he used to call me everyday and text me , i was so happy that i found someone how can take care of me i mean it's been a long time since i've been looking for a guy like this and suddenly two weeks ago he begun to change he only texts me and this week he didn't called me or text me for 3 days i called him to know what's wrong with him and he was just fine and then after that he dissapeard for 2 other days and it's killing me that he have changed in this way , yesterday i called him to ask for him he didn't answer me and it was kinda weird cause he have his phone on him all the time to i called him form another number and he answered and that was it i was so choked !!he knew that the anonymous call was from me so he cxalled me all night and he texted saying thaat he didn't saw his phone ringing and he was lying to me until this morning he called me i answered he was yalling because i din't answered his calls i told him i was asleep and he hang up one me .. then i sent him a text message to tell him that o can't go throw with this if he don't change his attitudes toward me what i want to ask you is is this normal ?? does he reallt loves me ? or he is just keeping me as his girlfriend in college while he is having affairs in his hometown?? do i go through with this or not ?? please some advices i don't know what to do and the problem is i started to feel something for him and he is to idiot to notice that ..He his killing me with this attitudes what to do !!!! and why he had change in this way ??
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reader, Oregongrl1  +, writes (28 July 2010):
If you want to reslove the problem? you need to get rid of him. it is not in your head! and you have done nothing wrong. he was doing a tic for tac w/ you? when he called you and you didn't answer so he was stupidly furious because it would side track you off of him, and what he's doing! and you said it at the beginning of your post! that you found someone who can take care of you? you don't get w/ someone for that reason you find someone because you care about them, and don't be a needy person? i think if that wer'e not the reason you wouldn't be having this problem! you fall inlove for all the right reasons not for all the wrong reasons. men will only respect what you give them to respect and if you are a strong woman w/ values and morals believe me they would never have a chance to walk on you. because you would have seen this relationship coming from a mile away. move on..... he doesn't love you and yes how can it be spelled out for you he is cheating and if he isn't either way there is no communication and he never calls you? never answers your calls? god for bid what if you wer'e in an accident i mean really think about it. get away from him while this relationship is still young meaning only 3 months into it. you know what made me realize to leave someone one time? i mean there wer'e plenty of reasons why! but this really stuck in my head. if i wer'e to become inmoble in a wheeel chair would he be around for me, could i depend on him and my answer was no. so i got out while i was still young. take care of you and know who you are and have respect for yourself and live again have fun! be young and enjoy your friends i mean your true friends who love you!! because he sure doesn't. show him who you are don't let him think he has stripped you of your values and the woman you are. tell him to go well in your own words. oh and believe me the feeling afterwards you will feel so good his mouth will drop seeing you stand up for yourself and your not clingy and you don't need his disrespectfulness, hes going to treat the next girl the same thats just who he is..................
Best Wishes!!
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