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writes: The problem is that I'm very shy around the guys I like. I am too shy to start a conversation and sth like that. At the moment there's a guy I see quite often, he sometimes works in a nightclub I often go to. So was the last week. I went with my friends to that club and I saw him. My friends told me to go and say something. But I couldn't dare. So my friend went to him and told him that I want to talk to him but I'm too shy to do it. The guy said that he's busy at the moment but he'll come up later. And later when he came around, my friend again came up to him and said "there she is, she does want to talk to you". I was lost for words. I came to him and didn't know what to say, except that "I know you're busy, I just see you often and wanted to meet you". I sincerely don't remember what did he say, just he was trying to calm me down with words "it's ok" and with the stroking hand touch. He actually was very nice despite the fact that i was disturbung him at work. Anyway, I was really lost, and came back to mu friends. and yesterday I saw him across my the bus station I was waiting to. He looked at me twice but i was so shy that i let my eyes down. so please tell me how should I act the next time i see him! how to overcome my shyness? I'm hopeless, so I really need an advice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2008): Honey the only way this is going to work is to look in the mirror daily morning and say to yourself "I am confident.I am beautiful.I love myself".See the results after a week.Practice with a trusted friend or mirror as to what you want to say to him.Go up to him and say the things you have practiced.The conversation should start flowing freely from then on.Remember you have to risk something in order to get something.Leave your shyness.Every human being is very special.All the best.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2008): hi i've got a problem similar to your's, but i'm too shy to talk to my girlfriend or anything, i gave posted a question that will be up soon, and i wish you all the luck, i know you are shy and i suppose i shouldn't say anything coz i am too, but next time you see him, try and walk next to him and start a small conversation, then everytime you see him try and talk more and more to build up your confidence, lol if only i could do that myself!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2008): Go into the situation with your head held high and you will even fool yourself that you are confident with everything! Go for it! People are there to talk to and if you're interested in him, there's nothing wrong with trying to see if it could at least lead to a friendship. I used to be very shy, too...but I put myself through some situations where I needed to fend for myself and part of doing that required me to openly talk to other people. If they didn't want to talk to me, I didn't waste my time. Guaranteed though: If you listen, someone will want to talk, and hopefully it will be this Mr. Bartender. Confidence is very sexy, wear it well!
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