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writes:i am a 24 yrs old male.i had a sex with my coworker who already has 3 kids and is 29 yrs old.she is divoreced and loves sex.we had it for 3 times now.it was my 1st time in life that i had sex with her.but now, i think i am really serious with her and i like her.also, I think she likes me too.yesterday, we went to a bar again. she was dancing with other guy in front of me.i think, she does that only to make me jealous.It affected me a lot.i always think about her and i want to marry her.i am really feeling jealous after that instance at the bar.please help.
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reader, Char02  +, writes (10 August 2009):
She's just using you for the sex and not wanting to date you. But if she does want to date you, she's going about it a very, very immature way. Trying to make you jealous by talking about other guys to you. Women can tell when a guy likes them and I'm thinking she's leading you on. Don't be the monkey at the end of the string!! You deserve better, everyone deserves better.
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reader, gattu +, writes (10 August 2009):
gattu is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks char02,
that was really nice of you to reply.
But I think i like her and can't see her hanging out with other guys,it makes me jealous. I know that she wants me to be jealous. that;s why she always keep on talking about her guy friends.
how should i react to this jealousy.
i really like her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2009): Your jealousy is a sign of your insecurity with regard to her affections for you. You don't think she is really all there for you. Talk to her about your place in your relationship. Perhaps she regards you as a side dish and not the main course. Maybe she's just using you until she can find somebody more in line with her shopping list.
It sounds as if you've fallen for her hook, line and sinker and not thought thing through before getting so intimate.
Start talking.
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reader, IamSoConfused  +, writes (10 August 2009):
Wait.. you had sex with her and went to a bar with her and now you want to marry her?
Why are you rushing into things? Take it slow with her, let your feelings grow slowly over time and maybe her feelings will as well. If not, it isn't as much of a big deal because you weren't as emotionally involved with her than if you want to marry her after a few times of seeing her.
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reader, Char02 +, writes (10 August 2009):
Umm, I think you're looking too much into this. I've been in situations like this before and I've had to tell the guy so many times, it was just sex. I don't want a relationship. Don't let sex be the thing that decides a relationship. If you truly, truly think you like her, don't have sex with her and just hang with her, get to know her more than just sexually. Also, it's never a good idea to get into a thing with a co-worker, but if you're gonna do it, do it right. Good luck!!
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